Blind Item: Gay Sex Massage Scandal Is Hurting John Travolta’s Life & Acting Career!!!
Choosing Between Lies And Blackmail
This big actor is in a hairy situation. If he lies, the problem gets bigger. And if he tells the truth, the problem still gets bigger!
If he does settle, he would be forced to continue to lead a life that has made him miserable for many years under even more scrutiny than before. It’s a life he was prepared to leave a few years ago, before he was entrapped by two significant parties in his life.
If he doesn’t settle, the threat of all his secrets coming out at once would destroy his career, his family, and his bank account.
Contrary to what you may believe, he is not a very smart or strong person, and he has been rather easily manipulated by others into leading a life that is outwardly successful but inwardly sad and twisted. It’s hard to feel bad for him, though. His fame and money have made him soft and arrogant and careless, and he has made a lot of very conscious and very stupid decisions that have hurt a lot of people (including people very close to him).
And, sadly and ironically, there’s not support for him at home. The two parties closest to him are also the two parties who care more about saving their own reputations and wallets than in helping him achieve authentic happiness. If he doesn’t continue to lie, his wife swears that she will divorce him and take all the money and the child/ren. Meanwhile, the other party is ready to blackmail him into poverty and oblivion.
If there is a way out of this for him that would satisfy all parties, we don’t know what it is. We hear that he is leaning toward more lies and a big payoff. Not surprising, given his history.
My Guess: John Travolta
Travolta’s gay sex massage scandal has exploded in the media he has tried to keep the rumours about his bisexuality private for years.
Travolta’s wife Kelly Preston is a D list actress but she has more clout in Hollywood because she’s married to Travolta.
Preston is Travolta’s professional beard she has done her part having children with Travolta and helping to create the facade he is straight.
Nobody cared about Preston until she married Travolta so she acquired more fame, media attention, and of course money from the marriage.
Preston also allowed Travolta some respectability and an illusion of heterosexuality.
There are rumours that Preston is threatening to divorce John and of course get a huge divorce settlement. I think this is a sad case of a closeted gay man that cannot come out because he fears the public won’t accept him. Travolta believes in scientology which is against homosexuality. The church of scientology is also anti gay and have a lot of power over Travolta.
Intense Gay Sex Scene Leonardo Dicaprio & David Thewlis From 1995 Film Total Eclipse.
In the year 1995, Leonardo Dicaprio and David Thewlis starred in the independent drama Total Eclipse. I remember the first time I watched Total Eclipse on cable television. I was surprised that Leo took on this role because this was before he became a superstar. Although Total Eclipse didn’t get the praise or media attention like Brokeback Mountain I think Total Eclipse is the superior film. Total Eclipse is a love story about two French poets in the late nineteenth century France. Perhaps, the mainstream media wasn’t ready for such a powerful gay film back in 1995?
Does The Gay Community Stereotype Gay Black Men Based On The Skin Tone?
I really enjoyed this conversation because in the black community there is a problem with internalized racism. Some black people believe a person with lighter skin is better. For instance, some black men will date a lighter skinned woman because they want to be closer to a white image. Some gay black men do the exact same thing. I thought it was profound when the light skinned gay man in the video said he hated it when people told him they liked him just because he is light. He was insulted because he feels there is more to him than just his skin colour.
Is Australian Tennis Star Samantha Stosur A Closeted Lesbian?
On the internet, rumours are swirling that Australian tennis star Samantha Stosur is a closeted lesbian.
I don’t know if Samantha is gay. However, I know Samantha’s close friend Australian doubles champion Renee Stubbs is a lesbian. In fact, a few years ago Stubbs came out to the Australian newspaper “The AGE “. In the interview, Stubbs talked about her romance with the American tennis doubles star Lisa Raymond.
Everyone knows there is a lesbian doubles network on the WTA Tour. Some female tennis players play doubles with their lesbian lovers. It just makes sense doesn’t it? Since professional tennis can be lonely for athletes a gay doubles team can spend more time together and make money!
I think women’s tennis is very accepting of lesbians, so if Samantha Stosur is a lesbian the WTA Tour will accept her. Tennis fans don’t care if a female tennis star is gay anyway. The problem is on the ATP Tour, most tennis fans and the media have a problem with male homosexuality. The only gay male tennis player that I know of is the late Bill Tilden. I find it very hard to believe that Tilden was the only homosexual to compete in men’s tennis history.
On the WTA Tour, lesbians have reached the top of women’s tennis. Gabriela Sabatini, Jana Novotna, Hana Mandlikova, Billie Jean King, Amelie Mauresmo, Conchita Martinez, Martina Navratilova are grand slam singles champions. Gigi Fernandez, Renee Stubbs, Lisa Raymond are grand slam doubles champions!
I find it very hard to believe that no gay male tennis player was a tennis champion in the past twenty years?
How is this possible if there is an abundance of lesbians on the WTA Tour? The imbalance doesn’t make sense. Since professional tennis is an individual sport, I believe it should be easier for a gay or bisexual male tennis player to come out of the closet. After all, tennis is not a team sport.
List Of WTA Lesbians Tennis Stars:
1. Amelie Mauresmo
2. Samantha Stosur
3.Billie Jean King
4. Conchita Martinez
5. Lisa Raymond
6. Renee Stubbs
7. Martina Navatilova
8.Gabriela Sabatini
9.Nicole Pratt
10. Jana Novotna
11. Hana Mandlikova
12.. Virginia Wade
13. Maria Bueno
14. Mary Carillo
15. Gigi Fernandez
Check Out Gabrielle Union In The New Movie Cadillac Records
Check out Gabrielle Union in the film Cadillac Records Gabrielle has a decent sized role in the movie. A lot of people talk about Halle Berry and say she is the hottest black actresss in Hollywood but I disagree. One thing I noticed about Halle Berry she doesn’t have an ass her ass is flat. Now look at Gabrielle Union she obviously has it all the looks, the intelligence, and look at her ass just look at it. It is obvious Gabrielle is a million times more sexier then Halle. I really like Gabrielle Union she has a B.A. degree in sociology from U.C.L.A. and she also is a solid actress. I wish Gabrielle was getting bigger roles but since Hollywood is notorious for skin tone racism I am not surprised. Gabrielle Union should be a bigger star. I am still searching for her 2006 Indie Movie Neo Ned I hear it is on DVD now.
Tennis Player Ashley Harkleroad Is Posing For Playboy. Why Are There Different Standards For Male And Female Athletes?
Since I am gay, I am probably the wrong person to ask if it is right or wrong for Ashley Harkleroad to pose nude in Playboy Magazine. Harkleroad is a lightweight in women’s tennis, she has never been ranked in the top thirty. Ashley is a solid player and maybe she could be top thirty one day but I don’t see Ashley ever reaching the top ten in women’s tennis. Ashley just doesn’t have the mental toughness, the serve, or the ability to be a champion.
Maybe, Ashley realizes since she’s not that great a tennis player she needs to find a way to stay in the spotlight and make some money? After all, there is no such thing as bad publicity. If girlfriend needs the money then more power to her!
However, I also understand pop culture tends to be very harsh on female athletes if they express their sexuality. Remember Anna Kournikova? Kournikova was bashed by the media for focusing on her looks and not on her tennis.
Ana Ivanovic and Maria Sharapova are smart to make money off of their beauty but at least they have the grand slam results to back up the media attention. Both Ana and Maria have been ranked number one in the world. Ivanovic and Sharapova of course don’t mind the media attention but they want the world to focus on their tennis and not just their stunning looks.
I just heard tennis commentators Mary Carillo and Mary Joe Fernandez say on ESPN 2 that Ashley is getting paid in the middle range of six digits. Fernandez and Carillo obviously are not pleased at all about Ashley’s decision.
Last year, Spanish tennis player Tommy Robredo posed nude in Cosmo magazine. Look at Robredo’s body this guy is just gorgeous! Also, I have heard from sources that Robredo is possibly gay or bisexual. Now of course I can’t verify this information but this is the gossip I have heard.
Nobody made a big deal that Robredo posed nude in Cosmo so why is it a big deal if Ashley poses nude? Although, I will say Roberdo is a solid tennis player and he was in the top ten last year. Robredo has also reached the Australian Open quarterfinals last year and the French Open quarterfinals twice in his career. I kind of wish the Cosmo photos revealed a bit more of Robredo’s body LOL! I mean come on I deserve to see at least one crotch shot right LOL!
Just a few weeks ago another Spanish tennis star Fernando Verdasco he took his clothes off for Cosmo magazine too! I have also been informed that Fernando is gay but of course again I can’t verify this information I am just going on what I have been told. In fact, according to my sources his lover is in the video link at the end of this article.
Oh my goodness I almost fainted when I saw Fernando on television for the first time this guy has a body to die for!!! Fernando is just gorgeous I enjoyed looking at the photos LOL! Fernando has a nice ass and great legs LOL!
Ashley just lost to Amelie Mauresmo in the first round of Wimbledon today 6-4 6-3 in straight sets. A few years ago the media thought Ashley was a promising player but she simply doesn’t have the power game of the Williams Sisters or Lindsay Davenport. In women’s tennis you need the atomic serves, the huge groundstrokes, and the speed. Ashley is quick but she doesn’t have the power. I guess Ashley really needed the money.
Here is the video link if you want to see Fernando’s interview and of course seeing him nude and in all of his glory LOL!
PS. Some nice photo shots of Fernando’s juicy ass too on the video link!
DVD Review Monster’s Ball: Is Halle Berry`s Sexually Explicit Movie Progress Or A Step Backwards For Black Women In Hollywood?
First, let me say congratulations to Halle Berry for having a successful delivery and giving birth to a healthy baby girl. Halle must be thrilled right now she’s always wanted to have a child. I am sure Halle will be a wonderful loving and caring mother. Although, some people think I don’t like Halle Berry this is simply not true. I believe Halle is a solid actress one of her performances was in the television film “Introducing Dorothy Dandridge” for HBO.
Eighty three year old Ruby Dee, was nominated for her performance in the film “American Gangster” she didn’t win. I was shocked this was Ruby Dee’s first Oscar nomination for best supporting actress. I think it is such a disgrace that Ruby Dee wasn’t nominated for her electrifying performance in the 1961 classic film “A Raisin In The Sun.”
I started to think to myself what is Halle Berry’s appeal really all about? Obviously, Berry is a very attractive woman I’m not blind. My questions refer more about Halle Berry’s acting abilities. Halle Berry definitely takes risks in her roles more risks then other black actresses. I applaud Halle for taking challenging roles for pushing the conventional thinking about black woman. Halle Berry’s most controversial and perhaps the one she won an Oscar for was for Monster’s Ball. Halle’s acting in Monster’s Ball is superb you see the layers, the complexity the feelings of anguish, sadness, grief, regret, pain, and finally acceptance of her character’s circumstances.
I also believe Halle Berry benefited at being at the right place at the right time. Prior to winning the best actress Oscar, Berry was already the top actress of colour in Hollywood. The best actress Oscar win simply cemented Halle Berry’s A list status. The question is, will another black woman ever win best actress Oscar? Does it even matter? Should we care? Or is the bigger issue the lack of dramatic roles for black women? The Oscars appear to me to be more about politics then about the actual craft of acting.
In the year 2002, the Academy had heard for years that talented black actors weren’t winning Oscars. The Academy killed two birds with one stone giving the best actor and actress Oscars to Denzel Washington and Halle Berry. I cringe when people say this is progress. I am not so sure. Denzel’s character in “Training Day” was a crooked cop. Halle Berry’s character in Monster’s Ball comes across as a whore willing to do anything to move up the social ladder.
Some of the the criticism for Monster’s Ball, is the fact, many people believe Halle’s character Leticia Musgrove should of went to a less sexually attractive actress. I will admit seeing Halle even without make up on she still looks glamorous even though she’s not supposed to be. It makes sense that Billy Bob Thorton’s character the racist prison guard Hank would want to have sex with Leticia. Althoughm Hank is a racist he is still a red blooded man with raging hormones.
The part of Monster’s Ball I don’t believe, is how quickly Hank “falls in love” with Leticia it doesn’t make sense to me. Was it love or just lust? How can a man in middle age suddenly transform so quickly from being a racist bigot to falling in love with a black woman? Why did Hank send his racist father to the nursing home after insulting Leticia? I doubt this would occur in the real world.
After, Leticia’s husband is executed, she is struggling to pay her bills. Leticia she is forced to leave her apartment and Hank decides to help her. The question is why? What was Hank’s real motivation? I wondered why didn’t the movie explore this a bit more? Didn’t Leticia have any family or friends or any connection to the black community? Leticia appeared isolated from the black community?
Perhaps, this was the screenwriter’s true motivation the fantasy that a black woman needs to be saved by a white man in order to have a better life? The screenwriter’s real motivation also is to cheapen a black actress force her to perform in a degrading and racist sex scene for shock value. Hank doesn’t appear to me as a noble or nice man. He just looks like a racist old man that wanted to exploit a beautiful black woman since she was was vulnerable and in danger.
Heath Ledger has a small but important role in Monster’s Ball his character Sonny. Ledger’s character is a sensitive young man, he works with his father at the prison. Heath Ledger was an attractive guy he easily could of been Halle’s love interest in Monster’s Ball. I think Berry and Ledger becoming a romantic couple in this movie would of made more sense. Sonny is depressed, he feels unloved, he sleeps with prostitutes because he cannot make a connection to a woman in the mainstream world. Sonny also feels unloved by his racist father Hank. I think it would of made more sense if Heath Ledger’s character Sonny fell in love with Leticia because Sonny wasn’t a racist.
Billy Bob Thorton is simply too repugnant, unattractive, and old for the leading man role. It just didn’t seem right that Leticia would fall in love with such an unappealing old guy. Monster’s Ball would of been a more interesting movie if Sonny and Leticia fell in love because they are closer in age and Sonny appeared to to be more open about interracial romance. Sonny was just insecure and weak he followed his father Hank because he was desperate for his approval and love. Sonny wasn’t a racist. Sonny commits suicide right in front of his father Hank and his racist grandfather.
Leticia’s son also dies in a tragic accident. Next, the media and public focus shifts to the intense sex scene between Berry and Thorton. The sex scene seems to me purely for shock value a way to gain publicity for the film and it worked. I am sure millions of heterosexual men flocked to the movie theaters because they can see sex symbol Halle Berry naked in her full glory. Leticia Musgrove is reduced to the pernicious stereotype of being a whore. In Hollywood, black women are stereotyped two ways, the black woman is sterotyped as either the maid or the whore.
The quandary is, the sex scene reduces Berry’s character Leticia to a filthy whore. Leticia screeches the famous line “make me feel good” with a sneer. I can understand why some black men were so enraged with the sex scene. The question has to be asked, does a black woman have to reduce herself in a licentious nude sex scene to win Oscar? Is this really progress?
When was the last time you saw Angelina Jolie in an intense interracial sex scene with With Smith? Can a leading black male actor have an explicit sex scene with a top white actress and win an Oscar? Can Terrence Howard have an intense sexual scene with Jennifer Aniston or Julia Roberts and receive critical acclaim? The answer is never because that’s never going to happen. Hollywood is all about white male dominance and white heterosexual men will never allow leading white women to have black male love interests.
Would a white actress that is considered beautiful have an intense, nude sex scene, with a black man and receive critical acclaim? Charlize Theron and Will Smith have a movie coming out this year called Hancock and according to reports there is an interracial love theme in this movie. Hancock is going to be a comedy it is not a drama. Theron is an A list white actress actress she is considered to be one of the most beautiful and talented women in Hollywood. Will Smith is A list the most powerful man in Hollywood and he is black. The question is despite Will Smith’s crossover success will Hancock be a success with the black and white audiences? How intense will the movie’s interracial theme be?
The sex scene in Monster’s Ball was meant to be fractured to be awkward, to illustrate two anguished souls smashing together for comfort. At the same time, Halle Berry’s sex appeal was exploited to lure in the male audience and create a buzz for the movie. Monster’s Ball reduces Leticia Musgrove to being a prostitute. Angela Bassett slammed the character Leticia Musgrove in a famous interview with Newsweek magazine. Bassett said she was not impressed with the character Leticia Musgrove because she believes it stereotypes black female sexuality.
The relationship between Leticia and Hank is basically a transaction it is a form of prostitution. Hank, the older white man, wants Leticia’s body because she is young and pretty. Hank will allow Leticia to live with him if she has sex with him. Since Leticia has no money, she offers her body to Hank for shelter. Hank also has a higher social status then Leticia she benefits from this as well. But where is the love? I didn’t feel that either character truly loved each other. I will give Halle Berry credit for taking on a role that despite the controversy. Berry’s acting is very strong, you really do believe Leticia is in a lot of pain. Monster’s Ball was the last big dramatic movie role for a black actress and that was over seven years ago. The paucity of leading lady roles for black women is still very rare. Think about it, when was the last time you went to a movie theater and saw a black actress in a serious dramatic piece as the leading lady?
Is Male Sexuality Still Demonized And Taboo In North America?
The former governor of New York state Eliot Spitzer has resigned because he was identified as a client of an exclusive prostitution ring. The most shocking aspect is that Spitzer allegedly paid $80,000 dollars to pay for the services of a female. $80,000 that’s an incredible amount of money! Spitzer is a married father and he has three teenaged daughters.
I felt kind of sad watching Spitzer’s wife on CNN because the poor woman she looked depressed, shell shocked, embarrassed, and humiliated standing next to her cheating husband. I wondered why does Mrs. Spitzer even bother? Why is she still supporting her man when she can just leave him and divorce him? Some people view Spitzer’s fall from grace as justice because he created laws and acted morally superior. In the end Spitzer couldn’t even live up to his own impossible standards.
In North American politics in order to be successful in the political arena you have to live in the paradigm of the perfect nuclear family. The politician has to be married, have beautiful intelligent children, and live in a big house and live the perfect heterosexual dream of true happiness. It is the image that is idealized by the media and the North American culture. Spitzer’s demise shatters the myth of compulsory heterosexuality.
I am not blaming Spitzer’s wife for his actions but he didn’t resign just due to politics he resigned due to the issue of morality. Although Spitzer was a very powerful man at the end of the day he is just a man. Spitzer is married and a marriage is a contract. Marriage is about loving and respecting your partner but it is also an antiquated institution. Does monogamy even exist anymore? How are you going to know your partner isn’t cheating on you? You can’t be around your partner 24/7? You are never ever going to really know?
However, lets say if Spitzer was single would the public outcry still be so loud for his resignation? Let’s play devil’s advocate here for a bit. Let’s say if Spitzer and his wife were swingers and the public found out? Would the public still want Spitzer to resign? The anger the public has at Spitzer of course is due to the fact he betrayed the public’s trust, he used taxpayers money to fund his horny desires with a twenty two year old prostitute.
The other reason Spitzer resigned as the governor of New York state is because he broke the social code on adultery in a heterosexual marriage. Adultery is considered a moral sin even though most marriages break down due to adultery. Marriage is still placed on a pedestal in society as the ultimate expression of heterosexual love. The divorce rate for heterosexual marriage is at 50% for a reason people still have a problem discussing our sexual desires and sexual fantasies. Critics of Spitzer say he had to resign because he is a hypocrite. A third reason Spitzer resigned is due to the schizophrenic attitude North Americans still have about prostitution. Prostitution should be legalized if the sex occurs between consenting adults.
People view prostitution as an issue of morality and not as just a sexual transaction. The john wants to have no strings attached sex and the prostitute wants the money. Women in particular have a problem with prostitution they don’t understand or want to understand male sexuality. I think in this regard gay male sexuality is a bit more egalitarian. People wonder why gay male bathhouses exist? The reason gay male bathhouses exist is in the past gay male sexuality was considered a criminal act and a social taboo. There is still discrimination against gay men in relation to us expressing our homosexuality. The battle for equal rights isn’t over. The gay male bathhouse is also a social place, a safe place, an environment where gay men and bisexual men are able to be free with our sexuality without judgment from the heterosexist matrix.
I must admit there are also some puritanical hypocritical gay men out there that look down on bathhouses as an example of hedonism. Gay male bathhouses are also male only spaces because of a variety of factors and issues. Although there are female bathhouse theme nights for lesbians or for women that want to engage in sexual activity with other women. Female bathhouse nights are actually growing in popularity in North America. I remember one year before gay pride I was walking by a popular bathhouse and there were hundreds of women outside trying to get into the female bathhouse. Women also want to have freedom to express their sexuality. Lesbians, bisexual women and even heterosexual women should be able to engage in sex without the judgment of the Mythical Norm. Gay men, closeted men, bisexual men, and yes even sometimes married men visit the gay bathhouse for casual sexual encounters.
The attitudes towards male homosexuality have relaxed over the years but the gay bathhouses still exist since the nineteenth century for a reason. The reason gay bathhouses exist is because the business owners know men will pay to enter the bathhouse . In order for patrons to enter a gay bathhouse men have to pay a fee for either a locker or a room. It may not sound politically correct but sometimes men just want to have no strings attached sex. Sometimes men we are just horny and want to get our rocks off on a Friday or Saturday night.
Gay men know the hunger, the desire, the need, for physical sex. The quandary for heterosexual men such as Governor Spitzer is straight men in North America don’t have the same access to sexual freedom that gay men have. North American heterosexual society places impossible standards on straight men. Heterosexual men are supposed to be virtuous and pristine.
In North America there are swinger clubs that exist for heterosexual couples that want to break the chains of compulsory heterosexuality and engage in anonymous sexual activity. But let’s say the straight man suggests to his female partner that he wants to join a swinger club but his wife or girlfriend refuses? I am certain there are heterosexual men that attempt to talk about their sexual desires with their wives and girlfriends. The straight men feel rejected by their female partners and looks at other options to explore their sexuality. What are men supposed to do?
Next, some men feel that since their girlfriends or wives are against them having sex outside the relationship pornography is a better alternative. The pornography business is more profitable then mainstream Hollywood for a reason. So why is there this reticence about pornography? Pornography is simply consenting adults engaging in sexual acts on video. Pornography is a manifestation of our sexual desires it is outlet that exists for people to explore human sexuality.
Some women are also against pornography for religious, political, and moral reasons. Some women feel ashamed or upset if their boyfriends or husbands watch pornography . For some illogical reason some women actually compare themselves to the women in the porn movies. I wonder why? Don’t women get it? Men love sex! Although a man may love his wife or girlfriend he’s always going to be glancing or looking at other women. It doesn’t mean the man will cheat but it does mean the man has a pulse.
Some women forbid their male partners from even watching porn on DVD in their own homes. What are heterosexual men supposed to do? Let’s say the heterosexual man doesn’t want his wife around when he’s having sex with the woman he secretly desires? Maybe the heterosexual man wants to have sex with a group of women? Maybe the straight man’s fantasy is to have an orgy or have a different woman perform a different sexual act on him? Perhaps this is the fear the silent barrier that men are conditioned by society to not discuss or talk about male sexuality?
The issue the North American media consistently ignores is heterosexual men have two fantasy women in their lives. The wife is the woman in the public sphere she is supposed to be respectable, loving, she is the woman that the man shows off at workplace events, weddings, funerals, conventions. The wife is the woman the man also talks about at work with his co workers.
The second woman the heterosexual man desires is the whore. Some men wish their wives were whores in the bedroom. The whore is the woman that is the man’s carnal fantasy. However, since heterosexuality is still so repressed in North America some straight men obtain the services of prostitutes to have their fantasies fulfilled. Maybe another reason heterosexual men like female prostitutes is the female prostitute is willing and able and knows no limits our boundaries to please the man.
The female prostitute is an outlet due for heterosexual men’s sexual desires. The prostitute is the woman men secretly want but there is a moral code against the female hooker too. The female hooker is scorned by other women as the culprit for destroying marriages. Is this really true? I don’t think its the female prostitute’s fault that a marriage falls apart. I think it is so unfair that people unload their own guilt about sex on the female prostitute. The female prostitute is simply doing her job she is fulfilling a service for the straight man that wants to get his rocks off.
Heterosexual swinger clubs are exploding across North America the popularity continues to grow. The catch is single heterosexual men are not permitted to attend swinger conventions alone. The man has to have a female partner in order to enter the Swinger clubs. It is clear that straight people too don’t just want to have sex with the same person all the time. Could the swinger club have been an option for a high profile person such as Eliot Spitzer? I doubt it. People hold high profile politicians to a higher standard then the rest of society. Since Spitzer is a public figure perhaps he couldn’t take his wife to swinger club? I wonder this is a hypothetical question would the public be more mad at Spitzer if he was a swinger and not a john?
Some straight men just want an orgasm they just want a woman to perform oral sex or just have vaginal sex without interaction without judgment. Spitzer could of went on the internet and found a woman to have a sexual encounter with? Maybe Spitzer could of asked his wife to join in? Some heterosexual men just want to screw an attractive woman they don’t want to get to know the woman or love her. One option of course is the heterosexual men can visit singles bars or clubs. The next issue relates to ageism. It is well known most bars kind of have an age limit in the sense if a man is perhaps close to age 50 at a straight bar he might be looked down upon.
However, according to the information straight men have told me this can be complicated. The straight man has to buy the woman a drink, he has to talk to the woman convince her to have sex with him. Sometimes straight men visit straight bars and they don’t get any action after the bar or club closes. So what is the option for heterosexual men that are sexually frustrated? The straight man turns to prostitution because although he may pay a fee he still is able to express his sexuality without judgment with a woman he finds sexually attractive.
Gay men are different we know if we visit a gay bar or club and we don’t connect with another guy the night isn’t over for us. The funny thing about gay bars and clubs is so many guys have so much attitude. Yet at two in the morning the same guy with attitude at the club is a different person at the bathhouse. I wonder why this occurs?
Another point to consider is gay and heterosexual men can make a distinction between love and sex. For some reason some women cannot. Sex and love are two completely different things. Some women view sex and love simultaneously and there is a connection. For some men engaging in sex with a woman outside of a relationship is simply about about fulfilling a personal physical carnal need. Love is something different it is about devotion, respect, intimacy, an emotional connection to another human being. Maybe some men are bored with their partners? Maybe the partner isn’t engaging in sexual acts that turns the man on? Maybe the man just wants to have sex with someone else try something new?
A quandary in North America is male sexuality is still demonized. Men are made to feel as though tapping into our sexual thoughts, our sexual desires is filthy, wrong, and disgusting. Instead of attempting to understand male sexuality the negative stereotypes are reinforced. For example, a man may love his wife or girlfriend. The man still has issues of temptation if men had the opportunity to get away with it men would easily cheat on their partners. If a man sees a chocolate cake on the table and he’s told not to eat it. Guess what? The man may not be able to resist temptation and eat the chocolate cake anyway.
So why is there this resistance to legalizing prostitution? Why does the invisible code still exist? Prostitution is basically legal anyway. Pick up the newspaper flip to the classified section. A lot of alternative newspapers make their bread and butter through the prostitution ads for services such as massages.
The bottom line is married men pay for sex. In fact, even single men pay for sex. People don’t want to think about prostitution they imagine the client of the prostitute must be some loser, some unattractive or elderly man. Spitzer is only 48 years old he easily could of found an intern to screw or join a swinger club with his wife but he chose to express his sexuality with a hooker due to lust. The lust of the flesh did Spitzer in. Spitzer was client number nine and some stories suggest he paid in cash up to almost $80,000 for the services of a hooker.
People don’t want to believe their father, brother, uncle, husband, best friend, cousin, grandpa, next door neighbor, the teacher, the crossing guard, the star athlete, police man, judge, fire fighter, or a top politician uses escort services? Who do people think are paying for these services? Women think it has to be somebody else, some other stranger’s man that’s paying for sex. It couldn’t possibly be their lover their man. It is very easy for men to hire a prostitute during their lunch break for a quickie and then return home to their wives or girlfriends at the end of the day.
Why is everyone trying to deny prostitution exists?In the Netherlands, Germany, New South Wales in Australia and other Western nations prostitution is legalized. It is clear there are men out there that are always going to pay for sex. So why isn’t prostitution legalized? In Western Europe and New South Wales in Australia, there aren’t social problems due to the legalization of prostitution. So why is North America so behind the curve? Prostitution is the world’s oldest profession so why don’t people just get their heads out of the sand and legalize it? It seems to me this relates to the issue of morality. North America is too puritanical in relation to sex people still buy into the belief that people must conform to monogamy even though everyone knows people that don’t. But the fact remains millions of North American men are paying for sex so why ignore the fact prostitution exists?Maybe if prostitution was legalized the social barriers around human sexuality would break down in North America?
Sex Tourism and Male Prostitution: European Women Travel to Africa In Search Of Young African Men For Sex
Reuters published a very interesting article that caught my attention today, it is about white women traveling to the third world chasing black men for sex. The piece is about old rich European women most likely from the United Kingdom traveling to Africa, Caribbean, Latin America, in search of big black cock.
It is well known, the racist and sexist stereotype is black men like “rough sex” and this is a sexual thrill for sheltered middle class white women.
The white women do not “respect” these young black males they just see them as sexual conquests people they can dispose and exploit for their sexual pleasure.
The media are so disingenuous! If white women want to have sex with black men, then more power to them. However, let’s just be honest about sex tourism it exists for men and women. Sex tourism is not just a category for male tourists.
Notice the double standards in the mainstream media, in relation to sex tourism!
Sex tourism is not just “specific” to just “one gender”, yet the Occidental media has always framed this as a male only domain. We all have watched the documentaries about European or North American men traveling to Asia, Africa, or South America in search of young women for sex. Female sex tourism has gone on for decades yet now the mainstream media is finally focusing on the other side of sex tourism.
Why don’t the European women travel to India, China, South Korea, Japan, Nepal, Iran, Israel, Syria, or Jordan for sex? Why can’t white women date black men freely in the UK? Is interracial sex still a social taboo? It appears to be so!
Why do some white women make a decision to travel thousand of miles south to Africa, Latin America, or the Caribbean? What is the difference between Asian men and black men? I don’t read articles about white women traveling to China or Japan searching for Asian young men. What is so special about young African men?
The Reuters article discusses British women vacationing in Kenya in search of the big black penis. Have you heard about this trend? I bet you haven’t? I also believe some “feminists” are probably involved in sex tourism as well because they view it as “female empowerment”. It is the classic white heterosexual female victimhood. It is the classic attempts by some white heterosexual women utilizing their “gender” to downplay their racist and sexist views of young black male sexuality.
So here you have a bunch of hypocritical racist and misandrist feminists that will bash the male gender that engage in heterosexual sex tourism. However, when mainstream feminists engage in sex tourism and exploit young African men they suddenly are silent about their own bigotry and prejudices. It’s like talk about throwing stones in glass houses.
The rich Occidental women have egos as well they want to feel attractive and sexy. Society has consistently bashed European or North American men that engage in sex tourism yet the media let women off the hook? I think its a total double standard. The European women also want to feel “hot” since they cannot “attract” young white men in the UK or Europe they travel to a foreign destination to feel powerful and in control. It’s also well-known in Africa “whiteness” is viewed as a social signifier of power, money, and dominance. The European women feel compelled to travel to Africa in search of young black men because the power dynamics are in their favour.
It’s interesting, because in feminist circles the trend is always about women being the victims of sex tourism and that women are exploited. The feminists act as though women cannot be misandrist, racist, and sexist. The European women travel to Africa for sex are indeed sexist and racist because they view the black men as sex objects for white heterosexual female desire. The black men are not depicted as “equals”.
Also, this isn’t about love this is about bunch of old ladies that want quick and easy sexual gratification while taking advantage of poor young African men in the process. Let’s not dress this up as some kind of romantic tale this is clear and obvious misandry. However, the Reuters article makes it clear that Kenya’s tourism industry is not happy about this new “image of the country” as a sex tourism magnet.
Now European women have joined in seeking young black men in Africa for sex. There is no age limit to how far these western women will go to fulfill their sexual desires. You have to wonder? Aren’t there young white or black European men available for these women? So why the need to travel thousands of miles to Africa for a sexual encounter?
It’s obvious that sex tourism is “easier” for the European women to not only to have the sexual encounters with young African men but also to fulfill their “African sex fantasy”. After the sex, the European women can travel back to Europe or North America and talk to their girlfriends about their “amazing” sexual encounters on the “dark continent”.
I think more research needs to take place in this arena. Why don’t the feminists discuss this perspective? Or do feminists not want to discuss sex tourism from a female perspective because they fear it will “place” white western women in a negative light? Aren’t these poor young black men here being exploited as well?
The American author Terry McMillan, she is most famous black western woman that was involved in sex tourism. McMillan’s so-called “love affair” with her ex husband Jonathan Plummer started out as sex tourism. The western media attempted to make McMillan appear “empowered” that she traveled to Jamaica to “liberate” herself. The truth is Terry McMillan “traveled” to Jamaica in search of the Big Black Foreign Cock. Terry didn’t want to have sex with an African-American man she wanted to have sex with a foreign black man “outside” of the United States.
Let’s be real and honest here, McMillan went on vacation in Jamaica specifically to seek out a young black man for sex. McMillan basically “purchased” a young Jamaican man Jonathan Plummer brought her “product” back to the good old United States. Soon Terry’s husband became her sex slave. I think McMillan and her marketing team were aware of how to “spin” the fairy tale about how she fell in love with her much younger husband.
One of the reasons McMillan married Plummer because she was cognizant of the negative image of the sex tourism factor. The residue of the social stigma of an older woman searching for sex in the Caribbean was probably on her mind and she had books to sell. Jonathan was only in his early twenties when he met McMillan he was young and naive. Of course he jumped at the opportunity to leave poverty behind in Jamaica for a new life in America. Although McMillan attempted to dress up her sex tourism experience as a “love affair” I’m not buying it.
My perspective is, that McMillan and Plummer had an “agreement” about their so called relationship. McMillan wanted a young black man she could “control” and have sex with. Jonathan was basically a sex slave for Terry he had no say. Terry didn’t want Jonathan to have new friends or new experiences. Terry also used Jonathan as her “product” to help sell her “books” and her “brand”. McMillan’s relationship was framed as a new form of “feminism”.
I don’t view someone exploiting someone else as “feminism” yet the feminist community sure did. Oprah had Terry and Jonathan on her show and Terry paraded her husband as though he wasn’t even a person he was just a human vibrator toy she bought in the Caribbean. Terry was much older, more experienced, she had the financial resources and Jonathan all he had been his youth. Terry also made sure they had separate bank accounts. After being married for a while, Jonathan he grew up he wanted new life experiences and now Terry McMillan is “angry” that her much younger husband has left her. Terry was the one that got screwed in the end because she thought she could exploit Jonathan forever. Terry’s just bitter that her younger husband got sick of her. Is it liberating in feminist circles to exploit young black men just for sex?
Plummer wanted an opportunity for “freedom” in America. Plummer and McMillan used each other their relationship was basically a “transaction”. How could McMillan and Plummer just “fall in love” so quickly and she brings Jonathan back to the United States? I do not believe a word Terry says because she got a best selling novel and movie “Stella Got Her Groove Back” out of her sex tourism experience. Terry used her husband to get rich and now she doesn’t want to provide her ex husband with compensation even though he was the fuel to her so-called “best-selling” romance novel.
I also find it interesting the North American media had to present the “May/December love angle” about McMillan and Plummer’s relationship. McMillan and her marketing team knew they had to “frame” the relationship in a positive light to “hook” and “sell” it to her female reading audience. Why couldn’t Terry just be honest with the public? I remember watching SEX TV in Toronto there was an episode on this phenomenon of rich western black and white women travel to the Caribbean in search of the big black penis.
I had a few problems with the Reuters article. I thought it was racist of Reuters to make the assumption that “only” the young black men can have sexually transmitted diseases. The article made it crystal clear some of the European women did not want to use “condoms” they wanted to “feel” the experience of having sex with a black man. Just because the rich European women are “white”, and “senior citizens” doesn’t mean they cannot also have sexually transmitted diseases. Isn’t it possible the European women can also pass on infections to the young black men? I thought this section of the article was very offensive because it frames young African men once again as disease carriers and it places all the blame on them.
Why did Reuters frame the article as if STDs is just one way traffic? I think its obvious once again that the media “lens” to this story is the older European women are “unfortunate victims”. The section about “condoms use” makes it appear as though the European women are “lonely spinsters” that aren’t thinking clearly. The truth is the white females are adults they have agency over their own minds and bodies. When are women ever accountable for their own actions? Nobody forced the European women to travel to Africa they made that choice. The British females made the decision to travel thousands of miles to Africa for sex. The European women know exactly what they are doing. It’s so racist for Reuters to make it appear as though the white women have no say. The fact is the white women have all the power. The white women have the “money” and the young African men “don’t” so they obviously have the “control.” Sex tourism doesn’t just take place in Kenya other hot spots are Gambia, Nigeria, and South Africa as well.
The piece also ignored the “obvious” reasons Western women travel to Kenya, Nigeria, Gambia, or South Africa for sex. Sure, Reuters did explore the “exotic” factor a little bit. The truth is the “dark skin factor” wasn’t explored. Some people are attracted to “darker skinned” African men its a sexual turn on for some Westerners. In the Occidental societies its well-known that darker skinned black men are viewed as more “masculine.”
The Occidental world has a love/hate relationship with black men. Interracial sex between white women and black men is still seen as “taboo” in this world. Despite the hypocrisy the western media frame young black men as being sexually attractive but of course as “tainted.”
The anonymous factor is a major reason rich Western women travel to Africa for sex. No one will “know” the Western women went to Africa in search for sex with young black men. Just to make things clear I am not against sex between consenting adults people have a right to make their own decisions. I am also not against interracial sex. It’s clear the older European women have manifested these sexual desires for young black men but an interracial relationship is considered “wrong” in the UK. The sex with the young black men is framed as “licentious”, “illicit” and “dirty” because if there was nothing “wrong” with the interracial sex why the need for the women to have their names “changed” for the Reuters article? After all, the European women are adults and adults can have sex with other adults if the sex is consensual.
The western women can have their sexual conquest and eat their cake too. Second, sex tourism is “fuelled” by racism. The racist stereotypes about black male sexuality is obvious. The “erotic” factor the Reuters didn’t explore is that some Western people think young African men are naive and easier to exploit since they are poor. Why didn’t the Reuters article explore this angle a bit further?
Why don’t the old British women chase young white males in the UK for sex? I am sure there are plenty of young white men in Scotland, or Wales, or England, or Northern Ireland that are poor too. Why not travel to Spain, Italy, Germany, France, or some where in Europe for these sexual encounters? So why aren’t these white women interested in “younger” white men? Why travel all the way to Africa?
I think the answer is clear some people still believe in the racist, misandrist stereotypes that all African men have enormous “large penises”, “more stamina”, “sexual prowess” and are “better lovers.” Let’s just put the cards on the table here we know what people say privately about black male sexuality. The racist and misandrist stereotypes are also that black men we only think about sex all the time and that’s all we are good for. It is disgusting and incredibly racist that Reuters refused to look at the article from all sides. Why is there this racist and sexist double standard? The Reuters article didn’t explore the sexual stereotypes angle enough. I was very disappointed about that because that’s the “fire” the “impetus” for Western people to travel to Africa for sex. The white women travelled to Africa in search of the mythical Big Black Dick.
These western women are not wallflowers they know “exactly” what they are doing and they aren’t “victims” either. In fact the European women are the “oppressors” they are taking advantage of poor, innocent, young black men for their own sexual gratification. Some of the men these women are having sex with are minors and teenagers. Some of these European female tourists are pedophiles. The reason white females travel down “south” for sex tourism is the same reason white and black western men do it they think obtaining sex is easier with no strings attached. So why is the public’s knowledge about sex tourism so one-sided?
In the Occident young African, Caribbean, and Afro Latino men are viewed as poor, uneducated, and desperate for money. The young black men are easy victims for racist rich women looking to quick sex.The western women have the “money” and the black men have their “youth” and “beauty”. A transaction takes place this form of sex tourism is basically male prostitution. Yet you won’t read about this going on in many feminist journals that’s for sure.
Link to article: http://news.yahoo.com/s/nm/20071126/lf_nm/kenya_sextourism_dc;_ylt=Atrnwmh6J7blJ.tzUMQWMamGWo14
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