Traditional Gay African Wedding In South Africa.
Wow, this video brings tears to my eyes, it is so wonderful to see a young gay black couple in love! This wedding is going to open the minds of people across the globe. I also believe this wedding will hopefully start a dialogue in the black community about homosexuality. Gay marriage is legal in South Africa and I think this wedding is symbolic to show South Africa is progressing. Yes, gays and lesbians in South Africa still encounter discrimination, but this wedding illustrates more African people are accepting homosexuality.
Former NFL Player Kwame Harris Comes Out The Closet Talks About Sports Career & Homosexuality.
I am very pleased that Kwame Harris the former NFL player decided to come out of the closet and talk about his homosexuality. We need more black gay men in the pop culture to come out and let people know it is okay to be black and gay. It is sad that that Kwame didn’t feel he could come out of the closet during his NFL career. The homophobia in the NFL is still very strong. According to a CBS reporter Mike Freeman, a closeted gay man in the NFL is thinking about coming out and continuing his career.
Gay Argentina Soap Botineras: Manuel & Lalo Make Love For The First Time.
Three years ago, the soap Botineras in Argentina had a very popular gay storyline about two soccer players Manuel and Lalo.
I can honestly say, this is one of the best gay male romances I have ever seen! I can’t imagine, a gay storyline like this being broadcast on North American television. The sensuality, passion, desire, and the love Manuel and Lalo have for each other is just incredible. The story is simple, Manuel is thirty years old, his professional soccer career is almost over.
However, Manuel is closeted he’s married to a woman Lily and he has two children. Lalo, is only eighteen he’s just starting his soccer career and Manuel falls for the younger man. Compared to North American soaps or television shows with gay storylines, this gay storyline is about love.
This soap illustrates the difficulty a gay male soccer players would have coming out of the closet. Lalo doesn’t want to come out because he’s afraid it might destroy his career. Manuel’s wife Lily eventually finds out the truth that her husband is having an affair with Lalo. There is a lot of drama in this story.
Although, Queer as Folk gets a lot of attention for being sexually explicit, the love scenes were mechanical and not loving. The romance between Manuel and Lalo is all about love, tenderness, and devotion. It is very rare to watch a soap with gay male characters who show tenderness, compassion, and comfort each other. Often, the actors who do play gay male characters are uncomfortable or awkward in the gay love scenes. Here the actors who play Manuel and Lalo give a tremendous performance, and make the audience actually believe their characters are in love.
Xtra Magazine Video: Does Gay Porn Influence Gay Men To Bareback & Practice Unsafe Sex?
I believe this discussion is very important and I think barebacking does indeed influence gay men. In society, there are very few positive representations of gay male sexuality at all. Some gay porn stars probably practice unsafe sex because they believe it can give them a career boost. But is it worth it, to risk one’s health just to make more money? Most gay porn studios do not allow barebacking it is a niche market.
Another point to consider is, there are very few places in society where male homosexuality is allowed to be shown in a sexual manner. Sure, there are television shows with gay characters such as Glee, Modern Family, and the New Normal on mainstream television. However, these gay male characters are rarely sexual they aren’t allowed to express their sexual desires like heterosexual characters.
Gay porn is one of the places where gay men can actually see other men being sexual with each other kissing, touching, and yes fucking one another.
Gay porn is fantasy, and I believe for some gay men it is a safe place where gay men we can see male homosexuality expressed visually on our computer screen. The lines become blurred though for some gay men, when they see the gay porn stars not practicing safer sex they believe they don’t have to use condoms as well. I also think for the models in gay porn it is just common sense that they should be practicing safer sex given their profession. It is true that in heterosexual porn condoms are rarely used and I can see the other side of the argument about the double standard.
I still believe though since HIV & AIDS is a serious issue in the gay male community that gay porn films should set an example and the models should be using condoms in gay porn films.
Huffington Post Article: Marco McMillian’s Family Claim Mississippi Mayoral Candidate’s Death Was A Hate Crime
By Emily Le Coz
Posted: 03/04/2013 9:03 pm EST | Updated: 03/05/2013 10:26 am EST
By Emily Le Coz
The (Jackson, Miss.) Clarion-Ledger
JACKSON, Miss. — The family of Marco McMillian, the Clarksdale mayoral candidate found brutally murdered last week, want authorities to investigate the death of the openly gay candidate as a hate crime after learning the gruesome details about his final moments.
The Coahoma County (Miss.) Sheriff’s Department, however, isn’t exploring that option, said its spokesman Will Rooker. The department is leading the investigation with the help of the Mississippi Bureau of Investigation. Bureau spokesman Warren Strain couldn’t be reached for comment Monday.
McMillian was beaten, dragged, and set afire before his body was found Wednesday near the Mississippi River, according to a statement the family issued late Sunday and which was confirmed Monday by family friend and Marco McMillian’s godfather, Carter Womack.
Womack also said the 33-year-old was found naked, bruised and swollen. The account was based on photographs the family saw, as well as two conversations it had with the coroner.
McMillian was one of the first viable openly gay candidates to run for office in Mississippi, according to the Victory Fund, a national organization that supports homosexual candidates.
“He was very concerned about his safety; people had tried to talk him out of the race,” Womack said. “The family feels this ought to be investigated as a hate crime,” Womack said.
So too does Larry Nelson Sr., president and CEO of Victims Group of Violent Crimes in Jackson, Miss., who had spoken to McMillian just days before his death: “This was a hate crime. I don’t care if the perpetrator was black, white, or polka dotted.”
Mississippi has a hate-crime law that covers race, religion and gender but doesn’t extend to sexual orientation. Local and state agencies can seek assistance to pursue a federal hate crime, which does cover homosexuality, but they haven’t done so in this case.
Rooker offered no comment on the family’s statement. Coahoma County Coroner Scotty Meredith said only that McMillian’s body wasn’t dragged behind a vehicle but rather dragged from the vehicle to the spot where it was dumped.
Autopsy results won’t be released until toxicology tests are complete, which could take an additional three weeks.
Authorities found McMillian’s body a day after his sport-utility vehicle was involved in a head-on collision outside Clarksdale. The man driving was 22-year-old Lawrence Reed of Clarksdale, who later was charged with the candidate’s murder.
McMillian was not in the SUV at the time; investigators believe he already was dead and had been dumped hours beforehand.
Chris Talley, the driver of the other vehicle, said authorities knew about the crime before the accident occurred. Talley was taken to a local hospital and released. Reed was airlifted to the Regional Medical Center at Memphis and released Saturday. He’s being held at the Shelby County Jail in Memphis, Tenn., until he can be extradited.
Authorities remain tight-lipped about the murder and its possible motives, not only with the media but with the McMillian family. Womack said the McMillians are frustrated by the lack of communication and feel the crime deserves a full investigation.
“The only contact with the sheriff’s department the family has had was when the sheriff came by to say Marco was missing and then to say they found the body,” he said. “There has been nothing at all. Not a call, not anything.”
Rooker didn’t comment about the communication between his department and the family.
Without definitive answers, mass speculation abounds. Among the numerous theories is that Reed allegedly killed McMillian after McMillian made sexual advances toward him, or that the two men possibly had been in a romantic relationship.
The family said it doesn’t know Reed and never heard McMillian speak of him. Family members said they wanted to share what little facts they have about the case to dispel such speculation.
McMillian had moved back to his hometown of Clarksdale several months ago to enter the mayoral race. He had wanted to reduce crime and boost employment opportunities.
Before his return, the Democratic candidate had served as international executive director of Phi Beta Sigma fraternity, executive assistant and chief of staff to the president of Alabama A&M University, and assistant to the vice president for institutional advancement at Jackson State University, his alma mater.
McMillian, who also has a master’s degree from St. Mary’s University in Minnesota, ran a firm providing professional consultation to nonprofit organizations.
Controversial Homophobic Rap Track: Lord Jamar Calls Kanye West A Fag Because He Wore a Skirt.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=v5XvjYcVY6Y
This song by Brand Nubian’s Lord Jamar is disappointing, how does it hurt him that Kanye West wore a skirt?
Lord Jamar’s homophobia only proves how some heterosexual black men oppress other black men by trying to police our bodies and sexuality.
Big deal, Kanye West wore a skirt the world didn’t end, nobody died, this song is ludicrous.
Yahoo News: Former Gay NFL Star Kwame Harris Arrested For Assaulting His Ex Boyfriend!!!
By Frank Schwab | Shutdown Corner – 8 hours ago
(USA Today Sports Images)
The NFL has no current players and startlingly few ex-players who are known to be gay, but it appears ex-49ers and Raiders offensive tackle Kwame Harris, a former first-round pick, has involuntarily been added to the list as a result of the legal fallout from a fight at a restaurant.
According to the San Mateo Daily Journal, a dispute over soy sauce at Su Hong restaurant in Menlo Park, Calif. last Aug. 21, has landed the former NFL player in court after he assaulted his ex-boyfriend.
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Chief deputy district attorney Karen Guidotti told the paper that Harris and the alleged victim had been in a romantic relationship but were not involved at the time of the incident. Harris’ attorney Alin Cintean confirmed to the paper the two “were previously involved” but were just friends when the incident occurred.
Harris pleaded not guilty to felony charges of domestic violence causing great bodily injury and assault with force likely to produce great bodily injury, the Daily Journal said. The dispute started when Harris got upset at his friend, Dimitri Geier, for pouring soy sauce on a plate of rice.
According to the paper, which was citing a suit filed in San Mateo County Superior Court, the two argued for seven minutes after the soy sauce was poured, and Harris said he wasn’t going to take Geier to the airport as he had said he would. When the two went to get Geier’s belongings from Harris’ car, Harris accused Geier of stealing his underwear and tried pulling the man’s pants down.
Geier tried unsuccessfully to get away, and Harris shook Geier and punched his arms, the paper said. Harris is 6-foot-7 and 240 pounds and Geier is 6-1, 220 pounds. The paper said Geier allegedly struck Harris three times in the face, and then Harris punched Geier several times in the face.
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Geier was taken to an emergency room, and had surgery to repair broken orbital bones and required a metal plate to fix the damage, the paper said. The Daily Journal said Geier has filed a civil suit against Harris for assault, battery, false imprisonment, negligence and both intentional and negligent infliction of emotional distress. Harris could also face up to seven years in prison if convicted, Guidotti told the paper.
Harris played at Stanford and was a first-round pick of the 49ers in 2003. He played in 86 NFL games, starting 55, including 11 games during his lone season with the Raiders in 2008. That was the last time he played in the NFL.
Harris’ lawyer told the paper his client was acting in self-defense and that Geier is just trying to get money through the civil suit.
“We’re looking forward to having this proven in court and clearing his name,” Cintean said.
Days Of Our Lives Gay Scene: Will & Sonny In Bed Together But Their Relationship Is Lacking Passion.
On numerous internet websites, some fans of the Will & Sonny gay storyline on the NBC soap Days of Our Lives are disappointed about the lack of passion. The problem is clearly the writing, which is disconcerting. Days of Our Lives, is the only American soap opera with a decent gay male storyline. On the ABC soap General Hospital just created a new gay male character Felix but he’s a flamboyant, cardboard cut out stereotype of a gay man.
Some fans have complained that the actors Freddie Smith and Chandler Massey lack chemistry. Most of the blame is placed on Chandler Massey some fans believe he just isn’t comfortable kissing another man. Chandler Massey appears awkward, nervous,and uncertain sometimes with his acting when he is kissing Freddie Smith. I don’t know if this has to do with the fact Massey is heterosexual in real life? Maybe Massey is self conscious about kissing Smith and there are deeper more underlining issues he has with playing a gay male character? Smith is also heterosexual in real life but he seems more natural and comfortable playing a gay male character.
But since Massey is an actor shouldn’t he be giving 100% in his performance when his character is a gay male? I think Massey and Smith have chemistry but the culprit is the writing isn’t giving the actors the freedom to explore their characters sexuality.
In some scenes recently, Will & Sonny come across as best friends, not boyfriends, and definitely not as lovers in a serious romantic relationship.
Will and Sonny’s gay romance comes off as too chaste, too safe, too restrained. There seems to be this tension which is obvious, that the Days of Our Lives executive producer Greg Meng and his writers are fearful of upsetting the heterosexual audience. Why bother creating gay male characters if they are just going to be shadow puppets? What is the point? It is almost the year 2013, if people can’t handle seeing two men in bed together, or making out then they need to get a life or change the channel.
In this clip, it is nice to see Will & Sonny in bed together like any other couple. However, the kissing isn’t that great in this scene the actors Freddie Smith and Chandler Massey’s lips are closed. Closed mouth kissing is pathetic because it isn’t passionate. One of the theories floating around on the internet is, since Days of Our Lives core audience tends to be older people the homosexual romance is being watered down. I agree with this theory because, when I compare Will & Sonny’s relationship to the heterosexual characters there is clearly a double standard.
Another point to consider is, since Will is keeping a secret from Sonny about the paternity of his unborn child this is the reason he’s distant from his boyfriend. I hate the baby storyline, and I think it was a terrible decision by the writers to create it because it sends mixed messages to the audience. I am cognizant that on soaps there needs to be conflict and angst but I feel this particular storyline is boring. I notice other soaps such as the British soap Hollyoaks also has a baby storyline for a gay male character. I understand gay people have children just like heterosexuals but these baby storylines are boring. I am also concerned that once Will’s baby is born, the gay romance is going to be destroyed.
The reason passion in a relationship is important is, how can the audience truly root for Will & Sonny when the writing is restraining the characters simply because they are gay men? How can the audience believe Will & Sonny are truly in love with each other when the writing doesn’t allow it? Why should the audience care about Will & Sonny when they aren’t allowed to truly be equal to the heterosexual characters on the show?
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