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Days of our lives gay storyline: Sonny & Will Have Sex For First Time Disappointed No Mention Of Safer Sex Or Condom Use.

Yesterday, on the NBC soap Days of our Lives Salem’s gay couple Will Horton and Sonny Kiriakis finally had sex for their first time. The love scene was tasteful, but it wasn’t as progressive as I thought it should be. I commend NBC, for allowing two gorgeous young gay male characters to be able to have a mature gay relationship which does involve sex. The after glow scene is excellent, Will and Sonny are clearly naked under the sheets discussing the first time together. However, I am disappointed that Greg Meng, an openly gay man and executive producer of Days of our Lives did not have the courage to allow the writers to write a scene with Sonny and Will discuss safer sex.

After all, the character Sonny admits to Will in a coffee house scene he’s had sex with men since he returned to Salem. HIV & AIDS is a serious concern in the gay male community and according to the Center for Disease Control website gay men are still getting infected with HIV at an alarming rate. Now, a counter argument is, Days of our Lives is on daytime television, it is a soap not real life and is just fantasy, just entertainment a way to escape from the real world. My concern is, for some fans of Days of our Lives they don’t want to see a conflation of the real world problems with their fantasy. I imagine for some heterosexual and gay viewers introducing a condom in a gay love scene is “too real” and “too gay” to wrap their minds around it. It would also mean a realization that gay men do indeed have sex. There still seems to be some anxieties about allowing gay men to have a realistic homosexual relationship on television.

On another American soap,  One Life To Live three years ago the gay storyline was more progressive Kyle and Oliver did discuss safer sex and condom use. Kyle gave a speech about how much he loved Oliver and he wanted him to enjoy their first time together. Kyle also told Oliver that using protection was an example of showing him how much he loved and cared for his lover. Now why couldn’t Days of our Lives have done something similar and discuss condom use?

Another argument is, the heterosexual characters don’t use condoms on Days of our Lives so neither should the gays. The assumption is, Will and Sonny barebacked they did not practice safer sex since condom use was not discussed. What kind of message is Greg Meng and NBC sending to gay men? However, how many opportunities are Sonny and Will realistically going to have sex on daytime television? Let’s be honest here, this might be the ONLY TIME Will and Sonny are going to have sex on screen. It was a huge opportunity for Greg Meng and NBC to discuss HIV & AIDS, sexually transmitted diseases and safer sex.

I believe Greg Meng and the writers of Days of our Lives should have written a scene with Sonny and Will discussing safer sex and using a condom. Television is a powerful medium, it can be used to educate people. Soap Operas have a tradition of actually breaking down barriers in relation to taboo subjects that Prime Time television tends to ignore. Days of our Lives can reach a lot of gay men who watch the show and a simple reminder about condom use can send a message that safer sex is important.

Another point to consider is, I think the reason Days of our Lives ignored the discussion about HIV & AIDS is because it would be too real for the conservative viewers. The gay love scene seemed a bit chaste to me, I am kind of disappointed to be honest, I thought Will and Sonny’s first time together would be more passionate and erotic. There still seems to be a double standard for gay male characters on television. Gay men are still treated like second class citizens on television they can be funny, attractive, but they aren’t allowed to be able to express their homosexuality and have passionate sex. Now, I am not arguing Days of our Lives love scene with Sonny & Will needed to be gay porn.

However, I do believe given the fact the heterosexual characters Gabi Hernandez and Nick Fallon had several love scenes under the sheets passionately making out there is a clear double standard. It is  disappointing, in the year 2012, that gay male characters are not treated exactly like heterosexual characters on television. Even though, I am a bit disappointed, I acknowledge that Days of our Lives has indeed done a good job with the gay storyline. Will and Sonny are allowed to kiss, to hug, to even have sex which is indeed progressive compared to other shows like Modern Family on ABC or Glee on Fox with their gay male characters. I think NBC is fearful of upsetting the homophobic straight conservative viewers. If you visit Days of our Lives Facebook page there are so many hateful homophobic people that are outraged about Sonny and Will’s gay romance.

Chandler Massey and Freddie Smith are doing an excellent job with the gay storyline. Some fans complained on the internet that Chandler appears too nervous, and awkward kissing Freddie. I think Chandler’s kissing has improved and I see the chemistry between the two actors  I still feel that Freddie is more natural and comfortable than Chandler with kissing other men on screen. I still believe in the gay storyline on Days of our Lives and I hope the writing is a bit more realistic and more passionate in the future.

Coronation Street Bisexual Storyline: Marcus Cheats On His Boyfriend Aiden With His Best Female Friend Maria.

There is a lot of controversy online about the new Coronation Street storyline of the gay character Marcus falling in love with his heterosexual female friend Maria. In today’s episode, Maria schemes to keep Marcus from moving away to London with his boyfriend Aiden. Maria realizes she’s fallen in love with Marcus and she doesn’t love her boyfriend Jason. At the end of the episode, Maria and Marcus argue and then they have sex. Some people believe Coronation Street is promoting the myth that being gay is a choice and not a sexual orientation. However, I think sexuality is more complex than just being black and white. People don’t just fit into neat categories of heterosexual, homosexual, or bisexual. Human sexuality is fluid and some people through out their lives can move between the three categories.

German Interview Der Spiegel: Orlando Cruz Talks About His Struggles As A Gay Man In The Macho Sport Of Boxing.

SPIEGEL Interview with Orlando Cruz’Something Had to Change’

Photo Gallery: Coming Out in the Macho World of Boxing

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Orlando Cruz is the world’s first professional boxer to come out as gay. In a SPIEGEL interview, he describes the relief he has since felt and his hopes that it would make him a better boxer. He also shows some sympathy for his female admirers.

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SPIEGEL: Mr. Cruz, is it important as a boxer to conform to the image of a tough man?

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Cruz: Boxing is a sport that is largely dominated by machos, by men who think we have to conform to a very specific role model. The ideal boxer doesn’t think too much, is raw and brimming with strength. I am also fascinated by strength, but for me style is a part of that.

SPIEGEL: At the beginning of October, you announced that you were gay. Then two weeks ago in Florida, you climbed into the ring for the first time since you came out. How did your fans and your opponent react?

Cruz: I had the feeling that the spectators accepted me. They kept calling out my name, much louder than during my earlier fights. My opponent, the Mexican Jorge Pazos, had said beforehand that what I did outside the ring was none of his business. I think that is the right attitude.

SPIEGEL: Once, when Pazos missed you, you shrugged your shoulders. Another time, you beat your chest wildly with your fists.

Cruz: Those gestures were my way of saying: “This is my ring, my moment. No one is going to take this away from me.” My body language was also important because I wanted to prove to people that I am not a girl in the ring. I am a man in every sense of the word. That is how I want the spectators to see me.

SPIEGEL: So you do have to fulfill a few clichés about boxers?

Cruz: No, but being a bit macho is part of the game in the ring.

SPIEGEL: You have been a professional boxer for twelve years. Why did you come out at this particular point in time?

Cruz: I have earned myself respect as an athlete. I have only lost 2 out of 22 professional fights. I knocked out some of my opponents in the first round. But I never really received respect as a person. That’s something I had come to realize over the past few years. The end of my boxing career is no longer that far off, and it was time for me to make peace with myself. And there was a second reason for me to come out: I hoped it would make me a better boxer.

SPIEGEL: How do you mean?

Cruz: Until now, I have kept my personal life and my career strictly separate from each other. No one was supposed to know that I’m gay. This game of hide-and-seek was incredibly strenuous and it took a lot of energy out of me. Now I’m hoping that I can put that energy into my training.

SPIEGEL: Did you fall in love when you were a teenager?

Cruz: And how.

SPIEGEL: With a girl or a boy?

Cruz: With a girl, she was the great love of my youth. We split up when we were seventeen. She was the person who gave me my first kiss.

SPIEGEL: When did you realize that you were gay?

Cruz: I was 19 years old. I was boxing at the Sydney Olympic Games in 2000. I met a man there. And when I got home, I sensed that something in me had changed.

SPIEGEL: How did you feel about that?

Cruz: Awful, I was in a very bad state.

SPIEGEL: Why?

Cruz: Because I wasn’t prepared for it. For a long time I didn’t want to accept that I was gay. Better said: I couldn’t accept it because I was too afraid. Homosexuals were discriminated against in Puerto Rico back then, sometimes even killed. I had a friend named José, but we called him Linoshka because he was a transvestite. He was stabbed to death in the street at the age of 19 by a homophobe because he had taken part in a gay-pride parade.

SPIEGEL: How did you handle it all?

Cruz: It was a painful path, but I was lucky in that my mother gave me her support. One year after the Olympics, I explained to my parents that I was gay. My mother told me she didn’t care, and that she loved me. After that, we both cried for joy.

SPIEGEL: And your father?

Cruz: That was more difficult. He was never as sympathetic as my mother. In the meantime, my parents have separated. During my fight two weeks ago, my mother was sitting right next to the ring; my father was up in the stands. But I was happy that he was there at all.

SPIEGEL: For 12 years, you tried to keep your homosexuality secret. How did you do that?

Cruz: I acted a part. I sensed the suspicion. When other guys talked about a woman’s backside, they’d pay close attention to see whether I joined in. So I played along: “Yeah, yeah, great ass.” But inside me there was only emptiness; that wasn’t me. Each time, I was denying my own self.

SPIEGEL: How did that feel?

Cruz: I had bad thoughts about myself because I wasn’t being true to myself. Inside there was emptiness, and it felt as though I was being weighed down by five tons.

SPIEGEL: Were there people in the boxing scene who knew the truth?

Cruz: That’s inevitable. Óscar de la Hoya, my former promoter, once asked me quite openly before a fight: “Orlando, tell me, are you going to tell people that you are gay?” There were other people standing around us too, boxers, managers. I was shocked and said: “No, I’m a man.”

SPIEGEL: Did people put you down?

Cruz: Four years ago, I was fighting for the world championship title in Puerto Rico. The spectators bad-mouthed me; they called me a faggot. They told my opponent to pluck my feathers. In Puerto Rico, when you talk disparagingly about a gay man, you call him a duck. That’s when I realized that something had to change.

SPIEGEL: That was the key moment for you?

Cruz: Exactly. In 2008, I moved from Puerto Rico to New Jersey. The distance did me good, also because I was able to prepare myself at leisure for my coming out.

SPIEGEL: How did you prepare yourself for it?

Cruz: First of all, I was forced recognize that I could not manage it alone. Three years ago, I went and got help from a psychologist, and we met every two weeks. He helped me to work out whether I really wanted to come out for my own sake, or whether I was being pushed into doing it. Only once it was clear to me that this was my most deep-seated wish was I was able to go through with it. Six months ago in New York, I met with the founder of an organization that fights for gay and lesbian rights. He helped me with the media relations work. He gave me tips for my press release, and we set up a Twitter profile especially for my coming out, which I now post to in English and Spanish.

SPIEGEL: Was your boxing team initiated into your plans?

Cruz: Of course. My promoter Tuto Zabala was very cautious at first. He asked all the important contacts whether anyone had problems with a gay boxer. He went to the television network Telemundo, which broadcasts all my fights in the US, and he talked to the boxing organisation WBO. They all indicated that my coming out was fine by them.

SPIEGEL: Were you nevertheless frightened?

Cruz: The preparations dispelled my fears, but I really was nervous and worried about what the reactions would be. I was prepared for a lot of nasty comments. But after I came out most people were happy for me. Professionals like world champion Miguel Cotto stood by me; he congratulated me. Ninety-five percent of the reactions were positive.

SPIEGEL: And the remaining five percent?

Cruz: The other day I was training at a boxing gym in Puerto Rico, and a group of boxers were standing next to me. They were talking about me and I could hear everything. One of them said to his pals: “Hey, we’d better not take a shower before going home today.” That’s totally ignorant. I’m a professional, an athlete. I go to the gym every day and I train hard. I don’t go there to watch anyone in the shower.

SPIEGEL: Did you confront them?

Cruz: No. In the old days that would have made me angry. But now that I’ve come out, everyone knows the truth. That’s like a protective shield against comments like that. Stupid remarks and jokes no longer hurt me, because I can stand by being gay. Nowadays I can even laugh at jokes about gays. Now I feel free, hungry and strong.

SPIEGEL: Have people outside the world of boxing also been in touch with you?

Cruz: Loads of them. There are messages from Venezuela, Poland and Australia in my mailbox. Even from Afghanistan. Many of the men who write to me have fallen in love with another man and don’t know how to explain this to their families. I can offer advice because I know what it’s like.

SPIEGEL: Do you know other professional athletes who are gay?

Cruz: If I did, I certainly wouldn’t mention their names. But there are definitely many more homosexuals in sports than we think.

SPIEGEL: News of your coming out spread incredibly quickly. Were you expecting that?

Cruz: Even though I tried to be prepared for everything, it was more than I could cope with. Suddenly I was sitting on US morning TV shows. Producers were asking me whether I would be interested in a reality show about myself. I received offers to take part in a TV celebrity dancing show. Even my mother was interviewed by journalists.

SPIEGEL: Why did your coming out attract so much attention?

Cruz: It’s not just because I’m a professional athlete. It is very unusual for someone from Latin American society to openly stand by his homosexuality. In my hometown, there are still lots of prejudices against gays. We are often not considered to be fully-fledged people. The family is sacred there; having children means more than anything else.

SPIEGEL: Englishman Justin Fashanu was the first and so far only professional football player to reveal that he was gay. After coming out in 1990, he constantly felt discriminated against, and later committed suicide.

Cruz: Of course, there are still some tough days ahead for me. But I have built myself such a strong network that I can be sure of always receiving support. Some 15 or 20 years ago it would not have been possible for me to come out. Back then, people still had such narrow views, but today many of them are more liberal. Being gay is no longer a taboo in many parts of society. That has affected sports, even boxing.

SPIEGEL: Since your victory against Jorge Pazos you have been considered a candidate to fight for the World Boxing Organization title. You could become the world champion.

Cruz: Yes. But I don’t want to be seen only as a boxer who is gay. I want to be a boxer who is professional, who pursues his goals and realizes his dreams. And my biggest dream is the world championship belt.

SPIEGEL: Did you have many female admirers before coming out?

Cruz: Oh yes, I got lots of offers. The girls would come around after my fights wanting to flirt. They’d say: “Hey, you’re so cute, come on Orlando.”

SPIEGEL: What did you answer?

Cruz: Well, what do you think? I said: “Sorry, not with me. That doesn’t work on me.” I think there are a few girls who will be sad after my coming out. I’m almost a bit sorry about that.

SPIEGEL: Your last opponent had no problem with your homosexuality. What will you do if your next adversary is less tolerant?

Cruz: Oh, you know, there will be people like that, I’m sure. Someone will come along who calls me a faggot or a fairy. I’ll say: “What? You call me a faggot? Okay, if you like. But you’d better watch out, because I’m the faggot who’s going to kick your ass.”

SPIEGEL: Mr. Cruz, thank you for this interview.

Interview conducted by Lucas Eberle.

Days of our Lives gay storyline: Will & Sonny Have An Argument Because Lucas Is Upset His Son Is In A Gay Relationship.

Today on  Days of our Lives, Will’s father Lucas attempts to break up his gay son Will’s relationship with his boyfriend Sonny. The writers have done a good job of exploring the struggle Lucas is having accepting the fact his adult son is a homosexual. Lucas tolerates the fact Will is gay, but he doesn’t accept his son’s homosexuality. Lucas is determined to break up Will and Sonny because be thinks if their relationship is over his son will no longer be sexually attracted to other men.

Unfortunately, Lucas succeeds in creating conflict for Sonny and Will by creating doubt in his son’s mind that Sonny is some kind of sexual predator.

I commend the Days of our Lives writers for having the courage to write a realistic gay romance and discuss the topic of  gay sex. Often on television shows, gay characters are with disrespect they are cartoon stereotypes such as the flaming queen, or they are  asexual, or they might kiss once or twice but they aren’t allowed to have passion as the straight characters.

For instance, on the television show Glee the gay relationship is extremely chaste and not sexual.  The soap opera genre is all about love, sex, and relationships. Heterosexual characters on television are allowed to have love scenes, kiss passionately and declare their love for each other. On Days of our Lives a young gay male couple is given the same freedom to be passionate, to be sexual just like the heterosexuals.

Gay sex is still an incendiary topic, on the Days or our Lives Facebook page some heterosexual viewers are infuriated and upset about the gay storyline. In this storyline, the topic of Sonny’s sexual history is important because there is a mystery about Sonny. For a long times fans of the gay storyline have complained that Sonny does not have the character development necessary for the public to root for him.

Since August, Sonny’s personality is starting to emerge he is a nice sweet guy but he also has a temper. My interpretation of Friday’s episode is Sonny was hurt and upset that Will believed Lucas lies.

Since Will is immature and easily manipulated he believes Lucas when he tells him that Sonny is only using Will for sex. Will is eighteen and he’s never had sex with another man before. Lucas plants a seed into Will’s mind that Sonny is sleeping with tons of guys in Salem and that he is not interested in a romantic relationship with Will. Will runs over to Sonny’s apartment trying to prove his father wrong by attempting to have sex with Sonny. However, since Sonny already had an argument with Lucas earlier in the week he knows that Will’s father has gotten to him. Will demands to know about Sonny’s sexual history.

I think in this episode it illustrates the age difference between Sonny and Will. Sonny is twenty one years old, he owns his own business, and he’s mature. Will is still a teenager and he doesn’t think before he acts. Sonny lectures Will about being respectful to him and he’s angry and infuriated that he believes Lucas lies. In fact, Sonny tells Will their relationship “is a mistake.” Will is heartbroken, but I think Sonny did the right thing. Will needs to realize that his actions have consequences.

Pop Star Jessica Simpson’s Dad Joe Is Gay He Is Dating A Twenty One Year Old Male Model.

An aspiring male model has allegedly been having an affair with Jessica Simpson’s father Joe, it has been reported.

It has been claimed that the 54-year-old has been dating Bryce Chandler Hill, who at 21 is 33 years his junior, on and off for about a year.

The allegations come days after rumours began swirling that Joe’s wife of 34 years Tina filed for divorce after Joe came out as gay.

Affair?: Jessica Simpson's father Joe (L), 54, has reportedly been dating aspiring model Bryce Chandler Hill, 21, on and off for a year
Affair?: Jessica Simpson's father Joe (L), 54, has reportedly been dating aspiring model Bryce Chandler Hill, 21, on and off for a year

Affair?: Jessica Simpson’s father Joe (L), 54, has reportedly been dating aspiring model Bryce Chandler Hill, 21, on and off for a year

A source allegedly told Radar Online that Bryce and Joe were introduced by a mutual friend, who is close to Joe’s famous daughters Jessica and Ashlee.

The insider reportedly told the website: ‘Joe Simpson being outed by the National Enquirer was no surprise to the gay community in Hollywood, Bryce has been bragging about hooking up with Joe for a while now.

‘Bryce is close to TJ Espinoza, who in turn is good friends with both Jessica and Ashlee and worked for Britney Spears as a back-up dancer.’

Split: The allegations come days after it was revealed that Joe is divorcing his wife of 34 years, TinaSplit: The allegations come days after it was revealed that Joe is divorcing his wife of 34 years, Tina

The source added: ‘TJ introduced Bryce to the Simpsons – and that’s how he met Joe.’

Bryce appeared to be denying the allegations when he posted on his Twitter page on Friday: ‘Yes, I’ve read the story….it’s simply NOT TRUE.’

 

The insider claims that Jessica is allegedly coming to terms with the news that her father, who also acts as her manager, is gay, but was apparently blindsided by the revelation.

Model mayhem: The fresh-faced youngster apparently met Joe through a mutual friendModel mayhem: The fresh-faced youngster apparently met Joe through a mutual friend

The source said: ‘Jessica had absolutely no clue that her father was gay, not even the slightest inkling. She thinks she has very good gaydar, especially since a lot of her friends are gay, but she did not see this coming at all.

‘It was a complete shock to the system, she feels terribly for her mom who was left reeling by the announcement and her sister Ashlee has also taken the news quite badly.’

The website reports that Jessica is doing her best to get her head around the shock but is having ‘difficulty’.

Tough time: The family are allegedly trying to support Joe after he reportedly came out as gayTough time: The family are allegedly trying to support Joe after he reportedly came out as gay

The source reportedly said: ‘Jessica’s been trying to process the information slowly, but she’s having difficulty dealing with it. She can’t understand why Joe stayed married to Tina for so long, and can’t help wondering how much of their life was a lie.

‘Despite that, she’s going to stand by him and support his decision. After all, he’s still her father and Joe’s always been there for Jessica whenever she’s needed him. And not just as a father, but as her manager too.’

Joe and Tina were first reported to have broken up earlier this year and this month put their Los Angeles home on the market for $4.4million.

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Days Of Our Lives Preview To Monday: Will & Sonny’s Gay Romance Goes To Next Level They Make Out Passionately On A Bed!!!

Finally, it took almost a year but the Days of our lives writers and NBC got it right with the gay storyline! For months fans have complained that Will and Sonny’s gay romance lacks passion.

On the October 26th 2012 episode, Will and Sonny relationships advanced to the next level. I commend Freddie Smith and Chander Massey for giving 110% in the make out scene. The kisses were powerful, passionate, full of lust and desire.

Freddie and Chandler are hot and it was so sexy that I felt like a voyeur watching them make out!

Great News Days Of Our Lives Fans: Will & Sonny Have A Gay Sex Scene On The November 14th 2012 Episode!!!!

For over a year, Will and Sonny fans have waited patiently for Salem’s gay couple to consummate their relationship. Finally, Days of Our Lives fans can mark their calendars on the November 14th 2012 episode Will and Sonny are going to have sex! I am pleased that the Days of Our Lives producers did not back down and allowed Sonny and Will to show the audience an authentic mature gay male romance.

The sex scene is hot and very passionate! The TV Guide clip is wonderful, Chandler Massey and Freddie Smith are actually heterosexual in real life, but they do an excellent job playing gay men. The love scene is intimate, passionate, full of desire and it is powerful. I sincerely hope the conservative audience for Days of Our Lives accept the fact Will and Sonny deserve to be treated like any other couple. I am extremely impressed that NBC is not ignoring the topic of gay sex. For too often on mainstream television gay men are not allowed to have sex on screen. I hope Will and Sonny’s sex scene continues! I can’t wait until November 14th!!!

Good News: Openly Gay Boxer Orlando Cruz Wins His First Professional Fight Since Coming Out Of Closet!!!

Wow this is incredible, I am very happy Orlando Cruz won his fight last night! I think it is inspiring that a gay male athlete illustrates a gay man can be masculine, strong, and powerful!  I am so proud of this man because he came out of the closet while still active in professional sports! I think Orlando deserves credit for not waiting until his career is over to come out of the closet. I believe that Orlando’s decision to come out now has more social power. It is going to resonate more with people that Orlando not only came out but he also is a winner! Good job!!

Days of Our Lives Gay Storyline: Lucas Finally Accepts Sonny and Will’s Gay Romance!!!

I love this episode of Days of Our Lives because Lucas finally sees his son Will’s happiness is important. In a previous episode, Lucas was uncomfortable seeing Will and his boyfriend Sonny kiss in the Horton Town Square. However, Lucas realizes that he wants Will to be happy and he accepts his son is gay. I also enjoyed watching the conversation Sonny had with his uncle Victor at the coffee shop. Victor approves of Sonny dating Will and he even invites the couple to barbecue at the mansion.

UK Telegraph Article: Orlando Cruz Breaks Barrier Is The World’s First Openly Gay Male Professional Boxer!!!

The world of sport has become a little more colourful now that the 31-year-old Puerto Rican boxer Orlando Cruz, currently ranked fourth-best featherweight in the world, has given a statement to the Boxing Scene website openly declaring that he is gay.

“As I continue my ascendant career, I want to be true to myself,” he wrote. “I want to try to be the best role model I can be for kids who might look into boxing as a sport and a professional career. I have and will always be a proud Puerto Rican. I have always been and always will be proud gay men.”

Cruz himself, however, has precious few role models. Traditionally, there has been a tendency for gay sportspeople to hide their sexual orientation until they retire. Justin Fashanu, the only English footballer to openly declare his homosexuality, was disowned by his brother John Fashanu and subjected to a great deal of homophobic abuse; he took his own life in 1998.

Emilie Griffith, a welterweight in the 1960s who was the first boxer from the US Virgin Islands ever to become a world champion, is another tragic figure. He managed to keep his bisexuality largely hidden from the public despite being seen by Alan Hubbard, a sports writer, “passionately kissing one of his cornermen”.

In 1962, Benny Paret, a Cuban boxer, threw homophobic insults at Griffiths during the weigh-in. Griffiths was restrained, but in the subsequent fight he responded with such a devastating chain of blows that Paret was knocked unconscious. Griffiths continued to attack while the Cuban was propped against the ropes, and Paret died of his injuries 10 days later. Griffiths suffered from guilt throughout his life, but was also haunted by the bitter irony that underpinned the episode. “I kill a man and most people forgive me,” he said. “However, I love a man and many say this… makes me an evil person. So, even though I never went to jail, I have been in prison most of my life.”

In 1992, Griffith was beaten almost to death in New York after leaving a gay bar near the Port Authority Bus Terminal in an attack that was thought to be motivated by homophobia. He currently received full-time care and has been diagnosed with pugilistic dementia.

But for all the dark tales from the past, times have changed. Cruz’s announcement has not provoked the same degree of shock that it might have done in previous decades, and his career is not in any danger. Nevertheless, he will doubtless be the victim of a degree of abuse, and is clearly brave to have put his head above the parapet. Orlando Cruz is poised to become a symbolic figure among gay sportspeople, whether they are out of the closet or not.