Live Science Article: More Male UK University Students Are Engaging In Same Sex Kissing.
Fancy a Snog? Same-Sex Kissing Common In UK Male Students
By Stephanie Pappas, LiveScience Senior Writer
posted: 27 October 2010 06:28 pm ET
Forget homophobia. A new study finds that same-sex lip-locks among straight men are the norm in British universities and high schools.
The trend reflects a move toward a “nicer, softer” ideal of masculinity, study researcher Eric Anderson told LIveScience. Anderson, a sociologist at Bath University in England, reported the findings online Oct. 22 in the journal Archives of Sexual Behavior.
“The mean, gruff, homophobic macho man of the 1980s is dead,” Anderson said.
Based on in-depth interviews of 145 British university and high-school students, Anderson and his colleagues discovered that 89 percent had kissed a male heterosexual friend on the lips at some point. A total of 37 percent had engaged in “sustained” kissing with another man, Anderson said. The men all identified as straight, and they didn’t see the kisses as sexual.
“These men have lost their homophobia,” Anderson said. “They’re no longer afraid to be thought gay by their behaviors, and they enjoy intimacy with their friends, just the same as women.”
A recent trend
The trend toward male same-sex smooches has skyrocketed in recent years, Anderson said. It began on the professional soccer field, where players often share exuberate kisses after goals. That made kissing between men acceptable for college and high-school players, Anderson said. Then the players took the same behaviors to nights out in pubs, spreading the trend to non-athletes.
Despite stereotypes of the homophobic jock, athletes were more likely to have kissed another man than non-athletes. Just over 80 percent of athletes had kissed a man, compared with 95 percent of athletes.[Related: Sex Quiz: Myths, Taboos and Bizarre Facts]
Of the guys in the study who hadn’t shared a same-sex kiss, all found the practice acceptable. One student who had never kissed another lad joked with the researchers that when he told his friends about the study, they’d probably ensure that his classification changed. That night, Anderson received a text from the student reading, “I’m in the majority now.”
Affection, not sex
Again contrary to stoic male stereotypes, the men in the study reported that they kissed their friends out of affection. One remembered kissing a friend after a meaningful holiday trip. Others compared it to shaking hands.
“I don’t want to give the impression that it’s like, ‘Oh, I love you, mwah,'” Anderson said. “It’s like, ‘John! Rawr!’ More exuberance.”
Even extended kisses weren’t viewed as sexual, the researchers found. One student recalled kissing his male friend in order to convince two girls to kiss each other, but most of the men interviewed kissed each other for fun.
These longer kisses are often photographed and posted on Facebook and social-networking sites, Anderson said. While they often happen in the context of a night of drinking, the men aren’t ashamed of or questioning their sexuality. Nor are they mocking gay behavior, Anderson said. In fact, the practice has made it easier for gay men to display their affection publically.
“It’s opened up the same space for gay men to kiss,” he said. “Sometimes you see two men kissing and you don’t know whether they’re straight or gay.”
Changing norms
The United Kingdom is less homophobic as a whole than the United States, Anderson said, but Americans should expect acceptance of men kissing on our shores soon enough. Research on American college soccer players suggests that 20 percent of those men have kissed another man, which is a harbinger of the trend, Anderson said.
It’s not yet known how the trend of men kissing extends to non-University segments of the British population. Anderson plans to extend the research to minority men and low-income men who aren’t in college.
Growing acceptance of same-sex kissing doesn’t mean that homophobia is gone, just that masculine ideals are changing, Anderson said. His theory, put forth in his book, “Inclusive Masculinity: The Changing Nature of Masculinities” (Routledge, 2009), is that in times of homophobia, men police their behavior to avoid being seen as gay. When homophobia fades, men can relax and explore behaviors that don’t vibe with the traditional masculine ideal.
“Decrease in homophobia has positive effects for heterosexual men as well,” Anderson said.
Associated Press Article: Disgraced Track Star Marion Jones Still Refuses To Admit She Took Steroids!!
(AP) – 1 day ago
AUSTIN, Texas (AP) — Marion Jones wants you to know she’s sorry.
Not so much about the performance-enhancing drugs she took — unknowingly, she says — when she was the most famous and lauded track athlete in the world, a winner of five medals at the 2000 Sydney Olympics, medals she no longer owns.
What Jones really wants you to know is she’s sorry for lying to federal investigators about her drug use. That, and her role in a check-fraud scam, are what landed her in prison for six months in 2008, during which she spent a month and a half in solitary confinement after fighting another inmate.
“I surely wish that I could go back and change certain things in my past, on one hand, but then I wouldn’t be who I am today, someone who I’m actually really proud of,” Jones said in an interview with The Associated Press, her gaze steady. “If I hadn’t gone through certain things, and because I had those six months or whatever — just a lot of quiet time — if I hadn’t gone through it, I don’t know if I would ever have that much time to reflect. A lot of people don’t.”
Jones also wants you to know how that self-reflection changed her as a person. Her priorities, her goals, the way she defines success, the way she makes decisions each day — all are rather different now, due in part to what she says is her faith. She emphasized that repeatedly during an hour-long interview with the AP at a park near a school her children attend, and in her new book, “On the Right Track,” which comes out Tuesday and quotes several biblical passages.
“My story is unique, in that the first part of my life, my journey, I hit the pinnacle of my career, and it was a very public career, and then I made decisions that cost me all of that,” Jones said. “And so I was at that low point. But I didn’t give up. I kind of developed a way to get out of that, and I’m on my way back up.”
Sitting on a wooden bench facing the park’s pond, Jones, who turned 35 this month, still looks like an elite athlete. She played for the WNBA’s Tulsa Shock last season, but isn’t certain if she will be asked to return for another. One thing’s for sure: She can still flash that famous wide smile — the one so familiar to anyone who followed her feats on the track a decade ago.
Her 213-page book, written with Maggie Greenwood-Robinson, is based in part on letters Jones wrote to her husband, Obadele Thompson, while she was in a federal prison in Fort Worth. The book contains a harrowing depiction of Jones’ stay.
“I didn’t have a sentence that was a slap on the wrist. I wasn’t sentenced to an institution that I kicked back in a hammock for my time there,” she said, punctuating that point with a chuckle. “It was tough.”
Jones writes about fearing her life was in danger during a five-minute tussle with a roommate. Jones says she emerged uninjured, but the other woman’s face “was bruised and bloody.”
In the interview, Jones called her ensuing trip to solitary confinement “probably the worst part of my life.”
“There were moments while I was there, where you just feel like you cannot go on: ‘How in the world can I make it to tomorrow?'” Jones said.
She writes in depressing detail about prison conditions and specific personnel; about inmates using empty toilet paper rolls threaded through toilets as a sort of telephone; about being chained to her seat during a “ConAir” flight with other prisoners on a trip to another jailhouse.
“What transpired during the period when she was incarcerated was both a crucible but also a wonderful opportunity,” said Thompson, who won a bronze medal for Barbados in the 100 meters at the Sydney Games and married Jones in 2007. “She’s not one of these people who’s bitter. She’s not spiteful. She’s not looking to get even with anyone. She’s just turned it into something positive. She’s used it to take the next steps in life, to rebuild.”
In doing so, Jones has written a book that can serve as something of a self-help manual.
In it, Jones describes her “Take a Break” philosophy, which she discusses when she visits schools around the country, something she first did as part of her probation and now does on her own.
“By helping people, it’s a form of healing for myself, because I hurt so many people. I know that,” she said. “I still struggle with knowing that I let a lot of people down. I disappointed a lot of people that love and care for me, worldwide, and when I think about that it kind of gives me the motivation to kind of keep going on.”
The gist of “Take a Break” is simple: Before making an important decision or taking an action you might later wish you hadn’t, force yourself to pause and consider what’s right. Jones did not do that on the day in November 2003, when she lied to an assistant U.S. attorney and federal agent Jeff Novitzky of BALCO fame about whether she had taken performance-enhancing drugs.
When she was shown a vial of liquid by Novitzky, she realized it was “the clear,” the designer steroid she’d taken before the Sydney Olympics. But she denied it.
“I made a decision that took less than 45, 30 seconds,” she said, snapping her fingers, “to lie, to lie to them. And that was my crime.”
Jones is repentant about the doping, too, but she’s sticking to her story: Her error there, she insists, was not being more skeptical of people around her, specifically her coach, and not finding out exactly what was going into her body at the time.
“Sure, it was my choice to take it without asking any questions,” said Jones, who publicly denied for years that she’d used steroids, “but it was never my intent to take it.”
Similarly, she writes, she endorsed a check she received from former husband Tim Montgomery, another track star, “without asking questions” and later “lied about my knowledge of the check and Tim’s involvement in the scheme.”
She’s so adamant about not detailing that part of her life nowadays that she didn’t name any names during the interview.
In the book, she writes: “Yes, I took a performance-enhancing drug and I can’t go back and undo any of it. What happened, happened. I’m not holding anyone responsible for the fact that I’m the one who put it in my body. … Nobody forced me.”
Jones does want to clear something up for people who think she went to prison for taking performance-enhancing drugs.
“That’s not the case,” she said. “I went to federal prison because I lied. That’s my crime. I could look back and I can say, ‘Gosh, I wish I wouldn’t have been so trusting.’ But I really wish I wouldn’t have lied. That’s my regret.”
Later, discussing her imprisonment, Jones said: “You talk about a tiny, little lie, and it gets you here. There’s nothing tiny about not doing the right thing. It can really have you land in some of the worst places you could ever imagine.”
She knows, of course, that her book would draw more attention, not to mention sell more copies, if it were filled with revelations about performance-enhancers.
But the book does not delve into those areas, and Jones is upfront about that in Chapter 2: “I should be clear about why I’m writing this book. If you picked it up looking for salacious details about doping and drug scandals, I guess you should put it back on the shelf.”
Jones was approached about telling a more sensational tale, but says she never considered doing so.
“When people look at this, they might think it’s a tell-all, it’s one of those books that you see celebrities or maybe athletes write after they have just done something horrible. It’s much different than that,” she said.
“It might temporarily help the author get paid,” she added, “but after a while, that story, your story, is not benefiting anybody.”
The book ends with a chapter entitled “Blessed,” and the final paragraph begins, “I don’t want to be remembered for the records I broke, the races I won, or the medals I lost. I want to be remembered for the very worst mistake I ever made and how I turned it into a life-affirming positive for the world.”
Asked to explain why she closed her book that way, Jones smiled.
“You can remember me winning races, winning medals, breaking records — but how, then, is that going to help you in your day-to-day life?” she said. “By looking at me and looking my life and saying, ‘Oh, she made some bad mistakes, but then how did she turn that around? How did she make life better for herself and people around her? How did she really make a mark and make a goal of helping?’ That’s what I really want people to get from all of this.”
Globe & Mail Article: Did Glen Murray Go To Far Calling Toronto’s New Mayor Rob Ford A Bigot On Twitter?
Ontario minister apologizes for tweet accusing Rob Ford, Stephen Harper of bigotry
Karen Howlett
Globe and Mail Update
Published Tuesday, Oct. 26, 2010 12:56PM EDT
Last updated Tuesday, Oct. 26, 2010 5:33PM EDT
Ontario cabinet minister Glen Murray has apologized for a tweet accusing Toronto’s newly-elected mayor Rob Ford, Ontario Progressive Conservative Leader Tim Hudak and Prime Minister Stephen Harper
of bigotry.
“I do not believe Rob Ford or Stephen Harper or Tim Hudak are bigots,” Glen Murray, Minister of Research and Innovation, said in a written statement Tuesday afternoon. “I regret tweeting a message that said otherwise, and am sorry that I did.”
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Mr. Murray, who was not in the provincial legislature on Tuesday, issued the statement after he came under fire during Question Period for comments he made on his Twitter account on the weekend.
“If u vote Ford u r voting for bigotry,” Mr. Murray tweeted. He also repeated a message from another user that said, “ford, hudak and harper – the trifecta of republican-style, right wing ignorance and bigotry.”
Mr. Hudak called on Premier Dalton McGuinty during Question Period to apologize on behalf of the absent Mr. Murray. Not only were the comments offensive and libelous, Mr. Hudak said, they were beneath the role of a cabinet minister.
“Sir, if you don’t call for an immediate public apology from the minister, will you then ask him to resign?” Mr. Hudak asked.
Mr. Murray’s apology did not end the controversy. In a hastily-called news conference Tuesday afternoon, Mr. Hudak said far from offering an unconditional apology, Mr. Murray has simply made matters worse with more “baseless” accusations.
“I am insulted by Mr. Murray’s refusal to take responsibility for his own statements,” Mr. Hudak said.
Mr. Murray, who is openly gay, also accused the three right-wing leaders in another tweet of using “fear tactics” against Tamils and gay men. This appeared to be a not-so-subtle reference to a Tamil radio advertisement and derogatory signs during the final weekend of Toronto’s mayoral race that denigrated Mr. Ford’s rival, George Smitherman, for his sexual orientation.
Mr. Ford has said neither he nor his campaign were behind the signs or the radio spot, which he condemned as absolutely wrong. Mr. Murray also challenged Mr. Hudak in his statement to condemn the derogatory signs and to “root out any of those working in his ranks who would try to exploit hatred with smear tactics.”
Mr. Murray went on to say he has spent his entire life fighting against discrimination. The former mayor of Winnipeg was elected a Liberal MPP last February after winning a by-election race in Mr. Smitherman’s old riding of Toronto Centre.
“As a gay man, father, and politician,” he said in the statement, “I think it’s important that we stand up against hate.”
Mr. Hudak vowed that he is not going to let up. If he were in Mr. McGuinty’s place, he added, he would remove Mr. Murray from cabinet.
During Question Period, Mr. McGuinty said he was not going to speak on behalf of his absent minister.
“It’s not unusual for things to be said in the heat of the moment that some of us might regret having said,” he said.
The controversy was at odds with the tone the Premier attempted to set following Mr. Ford’s victory. Mr. McGuinty took the high road, vowing to find common ground with Mr. Ford, a leader whose right-wing political views are sharply at odds with his own middle-of-the-road Liberal policies.
“I don’t think that the public have a heck of a lot of patience for somehow any of us allowing political stripes to get in the way of making progress,” Mr. McGuinty told reporters Tuesday morning.
If he is worried about the Liberal stronghold in the Greater Toronto Area crumbling in the provincial election next October, as some experts are predicting, he isn’t saying.
Ontario NDP Leader Andrea Horwath played down the shift to the hard right and said: “This race, not only in Toronto but across the province, really was about people wanting to see some change.”
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