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Tiger blackened by his all-white trophy cupboard

India Knight

At some point you notice that all the women Tiger Woods has slept with since marrying his Swedish wife in 2004 have been white. And why shouldn’t they be? If Woods fancies white women more than not-white women — well, that’s his thing, in the way that Rod Stewart’s is leggy blondes. And all my boyfriends have been Chinese — 20 boyfriends, two husbands. No, not really (only one). But what did you think when you read that sentence? Because if I read it, I’d think, “Chinese boyfriends are nice, but seriously? That’s more like a symptom than a sexual preference.”

Woods does not consider himself African-American but “Cablinasian”, a mixture of Caucasian, black, Indian and Asian; he is none the less viewed by most people as “black”. Whether black people “should” or “shouldn’t” sleep with white people is a hot potato — I don’t mean just because of gun-toting, redneck loonies in the southern United States, but rather because of the views of intelligent, educated black people who have read their Marcus Garvey and Malcolm X. Put reductively, the idea is that if you’re going to celebrate your heritage and be proud of who you are — slave ancestry, misery, centuries of oppression and all — then you might want to get together with someone like you. Some might — and do — argue that it is a question of duty.

Eugene Robinson, an African-American columnist for The Washington Post, wrote last week of “Tiger’s validation complex”.

“What’s with the whole Barbie thing?” he asked. “This may be the most interesting aspect of the whole Tiger Woods story — and one of the most disappointing. He seems to have been bent on proving to himself that he could have any woman he wanted. But from the evidence, his aim wasn’t variety but some kind of validation [. . .] “If adultery is really about the power and satisfaction of conquest, Woods’s self-esteem was apparently only boosted by bedding the kind of woman he thought other men lusted after — the ‘playmate of the month’ type that Hugh Hefner turned into the American gold standard. But the world is full of beautiful women of all colours, shapes and sizes — some with short hair or almond eyes, some with broad noses, some with yellow or brown skin. Woods appears to have bought into an ‘official’ standard of beauty that is so conventional as to be almost oppressive.”

I used to think that the only interesting thing about Woods was his studiedly dull personality, which has occasionally caused me to wonder whether he really was that boring or whether it was a necessity — the equivalent of changing your name from Rubenstein to Ruby so you can join the country club, the kind of ugly sacrifice often involved in the outsider’s stab at “acceptance”. Maybe he made himself boring on purpose, I’d think: it was only in 1955 that Emmett Till, a 14-year-old black boy from Chicago, was murdered in Money, Mississippi, for whistling at a white woman, an event that played its part in the civil rights movement. The Professional Golf Association of America maintained its all-white status until 1961.

Woods is not only the world No 1 and the highest-earning sportsman but is also credited with drawing the largest television audiences in golf history and with bringing the game to a new audience (young, black). In the world of sport, his behaviour and his voluble, Janet-and-John style devotion to his family — his wife, Elin Nordegren, and their two young children, Sam and Charlie — marked him out as unusual: no drug-fuelled flip-outs or gang-bangs here. The whole thing seemed so American dream that it occasionally looked a bit unreal. Which it was.

Sportsmen cock up all the time and we generally go: “Oh dear.” What has made Woods’s story so compelling is the added frisson of race: to put it bluntly, he has stopped being viewed as a white man who happens to have black skin (“one of us”) and has hurled himself back into the pit of stereotypes so many people are still, alas, fond of: “one of them”, a black man with a varied and insatiable sexual appetite, coming into his nickname at last and making it a whole lot less cuddly.

And, as I was saying, the women are all white. I don’t wish to wade any deeper into that particular race pit but in October, Keith Bardwell, a Louisiana justice of the peace, refused to issue a mixed-race couple with a marriage licence out of “concern” for any children they might have. “I’m not a racist,” he said. “I just don’t believe in mixing the races that way.”

You can tell a lot about someone by looking at their archetypes. When I was in my teens, my father had a friend in Brussels who slept only with black women. They were inevitably Congolese, the Congo being a former Belgian colony. The first of these girlfriends that I met made me feel pleased that my dad’s friend wasn’t a bigot; the third was, “Ah, okay”; the 20th was, “Not terribly imaginative, is it?” This was followed by my wondering whether he felt he should personally atone for Leopold II’s atrocities, or whether he had weird colonial fantasies. I suspect the latter, though who knows: technically there ought to be nothing strange about only ever fancying one type. But as someone with mixed parentage myself I find it … odd. It’s like having all the food in the world at your disposal and eating only crisps. Why?

It has been argued by people who think about this topic more than I do that a white girlfriend is the ultimate “trophy”, kind of (sorry about my cultural references) like in Shirley Conran’s novel Lace when Prince Abdullah, who is “foreign”, explains that the reason he sleeps with everyone’s white girlfriends is not because he especially desires them, but because he’s rich and powerful and therefore he can. Oh, and because it irritates the boys who were mean to him at school.

Woods was reared by his father to be a champion. There’s footage of him on YouTube playing golf aged two. His hard work got him everything: beautiful wife, beautiful kids, beautiful houses, world No 1, more money than anyone would know what to do with. And trophies. Lots and lots of trophies made of metal. It would be a terrible shame if he has thrown them all away in exchange for human ones.

+ Vision Express, the chain of opticians, is to start selling monocles following a surge in demand. They will cost £50 and come in a pouch, with a string to put around the wearer’s neck. “It’s one of those inexplicable fashion things,” Vision’s chief executive said last week. “We’ve had dozens of requests from customers in the past few months, so we thought we’d bring back the monocle on a trial basis. We’re as puzzled as anyone by the interest.” Presumably Vision Express wouldn’t start producing monocles on a whim, or for publicity purposes, so we must assume that there are young people out there absolutely dying to make like Bertie Wooster.

I was thinking how odd this was and then I remembered that the streets of fashionable Shoreditch, east London, are littered with young people wearing Barbours, strings of pearls and — spotted last week — those über-Sloane pie-crust collars. I find it too mind-boggling to analyse — let’s just say said young people weren’t on the way back from a weekend at the ancestral pile — but it rather cheers me up. Being a Hooray may be unhelpful if you’re a politician, but out there on the street it’s never been more fashionable.

Article: White America Fearful Of Tiger Woods He Is Stereotyped For Having An Insatiable Sex Drive For Young White Women!

Tiger Woods’ choice of paramours: “Catch a tiger by the . . .”

By Imani PerryGuest Contributor

It’s the elephant in the room.

Almost all of Tiger Wood’s rumored infidelities are with white women. No one is saying it, but everyone is showing it, by repeatedly displaying the multiple images of the multiple women. “Tiger likes white women”  can be “said” without being “said.” Journalists don’t want to say it because we aren’t supposed to care what color a person’s partners are anymore. But of course we sill care and the journalists know that!

Tiger Woods is an interesting personality when it comes to race. He was lauded by some and treated with skepticism by others for his insistent refusal to identify as “just black.” He vigorously claimed his multiracial heritage. He famously told Oprah the name he had given himself “Cablinasian” a designation so individual so as to make it not a reference to a group, but just to himself. Tiger was “post-racial” before post-racial was cool.

So, what are we to make of this racial performance? It is a show so old that even thinking about it is exhausting.  Americans fear of and fascination with the idea of Black men having sexual desire for white women has a long and miserable history in the United States. It is tied to lynching. It is tied to sexism and racism at the same time. It is tied to stereotypes of black hyper-sexuality and  animalistic lust. It is tied to the fall from grace of more than one public figure.

One way of interpreting this media spectacle is to consider how Tiger’s infidelities might be seen in certain quarters as evidence that no matter how assimilated and clean cut a black man might seem, there is always the danger that underneath it all he is little more than a walking stereotype. That is what the always incendiary Rush Limbaugh has said about the Tiger Woods affair(s). This is a particularly dramatic moment for such an image to come to the fore of American culture, right as the  country’s collective love affair with President Obama is increasingly strained over the war, the recession, and health reform.

Given how frequently Americans have fallen out of love with a black hero, and how often it has been through the association of said heroes with stereotypes, we have to wonder if Barack Obama, a politician who was called “The Tiger Woods” of politics by some, is suffering from some questions about whether his “true colors” are going to show. After all, gossip rags have been running stories claiming that Obama has a secret white female or male lover. It Is hard to imagine such stories having truth, given the eager mudslinging in Washington, it would have been quite a feat to prevent evidence of such affairs from leaking. I think the rumors say more about our latent fears than any reality.

But with respect to the Tiger Woods fiasco on the other hand, there is very good evidence supporting the claim that he was not only a cheater, but a sloppy one. His indiscretion reveals either naivete, stupidity or a delusional sense of his power over the women with whom he was involved. And  I think, without getting into the mind and heart of Tiger Woods, the parade of women, the parade of white women, if nothing else says, we are far from post racial.

A man who identifies as a member of three non-white racial groups, but appears to have little to no sexual desire (and who appears to act on his every sexual desire) for women of any of those non-white racial groups is a product of history whether he likes it or not. From the 18th through mid 20th century, standards of idealized white beauty were promulgated around the world, and those standards of beauty reflected the ideology of white supremacy that was used to justify the domination and exploitation of non-white people.

We live with the residue of that history in our ongoing beauty cultures and ideals, not just in the United States but in many places around the world.  Even though individual women of color have become beauty icons, the normative ideal remains white and blonde and blue-eyed. I am sure some readers will respond, “Tiger just has a type, it isn’t racial.” Well, with the exception of two who look like his wife, all of the women actually look very different. What unifies them is their race. That’s his type: white.

(There is the one counter example of Jaimee Grubbs, a  half Native American woman who claims to have had an affair with Woods. Grubbs grew up on a Colville Indian Reservation, and reportedly has given interviews in which she has shared her racist stereotypes about, and disaffection for Native Americans. But I digress.)

That said, I would never suggest that Tiger Woods has any obligation to display any racial loyalty to any of the racial groups to which he belongs.  I think those politics are not useful. Performing loyalty when it isn’t felt, is both sad and lacks meaning. Nor do I think loyalty is necessarily displayed through sexual partnerships. There are many people who have been of service to their communities while partnering interracially and many who have partnered with people of their group and been a destructive force within that group.

Tiger Woods has and should continue to be with women he finds attractive (although ideally without the lying and cheating). But our collective fascination with that collective of women, and his own fascination with them, is yet another sign that our racial past continues to impact our racial present.

Imani Perry, PhD, JD is an author and professor at Princeton University’s Center for African American Studies (CAAS).

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