The Closeted, Paranoid, Indian, Gay Man Issue.
Well, last week I received two e-mails from the ex, the closeted, paranoid, Indian, gay man. I just found out he still reads my blog.
First off, the two blog entires I wrote about him were from a few months ago.
Second, I told him via e-mail on Friday that it would be in his “best interest” to STOP reading my blog.
I sincerely hope his “friends” STOP reading my blog as well.
I never ever told him to read my blog!
However, he is still complaining about certain blog entries I have written.
He has to realize he can’t keep on “complaining” to me about my blog.
He should move on with his life and STOP reading my blog!!
I do feel this is annoying this is my blog and my space.
He claims some of my blog entries “ridicule” him and make him look like he is a “bad” person.
Well maybe if he was not such an “insensitive jerk” and a “closet case” he would not feel that way.
I think he is just projecting his own insecurities.
He claims he is fearful his family might find out he is a homosexual.
He says he is “afraid” his employer may fire him if he or she finds out he is gay.
However, I told him in the province of Ontario it is illegal for an employer to “fire” an employee just because he or she is gay.
It is hard to believe he is ignorant because he is very intelligent. I think he brought up the employer issue as an excuse.
However,he has already disclosed to his sisters that he is a “queer”.
I just feel it is very “offensive” that he has the audacity to try to blame me for his “anxiety” about his homosexuality.
Just because he has never “declared” to his parents he is “gay” doesn’t mean they don’t already “know” he is gay.
I doubt his family is that dense. The man is twenty six years old and he has never ever had a girlfriend.
There is absolutely nothing about this man that gives off the vibe that he is even remotely “heterosexual”.
I am serious, if you spent five minutes talking to this man you would know immediately he is a homosexual. He is very effeminate.
Last night, I decided to delete the two blog entries he “believes” are offensive. I will never ever mention his name on my blog again.
Gayblackcanada 
I think it’s sad that you have given your ex so much power over you that you would change your blog when he asks you; especially when you never had any intention of doing it.
But who am I to tell you what to do?
Hi Jason, I do understand your point but I don’t see it as me “giving him power”. I don’t want to “fight” with him. I just don’t want to be “angry” at him anymore it’s not worth it. I will continue to write out my feelings and emotions on my blog. It’s really about me “moving on” from him.
After I read his e-mails last week I realized he is a young, closeted, paranoid, gay, Indian man. I know I deserve so much better than him. He will end up in an arranged marriage to an Indian woman in a couple of years that’s his fate. I spoke to a female friend on Sunday she said he clearly has “issues” and a lot of “baggage”. I do care about him still maybe I did go a bit overboard with my blog posts?
It was nice of you to delete the posts about him.Why? Because, if i was a gay person still “in the closet”, i would feel extremely hurt and betrayed if my ex outed me. I understand that he’s a player who’s messed with you emotionally. But that is no excuse to out someone like that(e.g. posting his picture and revealing his identity to strangers/ppl who read your blog). that just makes you look like a bitter person. Don’t stoop to that level. You’re better than that. You keep saying you’re over him and that he’s not worth your time but unfortunately, it seems like you still haven’t truly gotten over him. You write posts about him a few days/or weeks after you’ve berated him online and concluded that he’s a loser who’s never gonna change his ways. Orville, you need to give this guy up like seriously.For your sake, i hope Rahi is gay(an open one at that).
Yes redapple, it’s going to take time for me to get over him it is not going to happen overnight. I have known this man for seven years that’s a long time. We have had our ups and our downs but I really do understand now whatever we had, that spark we once had, is all over.
I have cut all contact with him. I haven’t spoken to him in two months on the phone or seen him in two months. I only responded to his e-mail two weeks ago because he was very upset.
He really hurt me very badly in September. You don’t know how pernicious he was in late September. I went to his house just to apologize to him and he just lashed out at me. I was totally shocked and horrified. He could of handled himself better that night in late September. He was very angry at me.
I was full of rage and I wanted to get back at him. However, I realized that if I continue to “act” like the way he treated me in September then I was just lowering myself to his level. So I deleted the blog posts because I don’t want to be down at that level.
Yes I acknowledge you are right the reason I deleted the blog posts was because although he hurt me he’s still a human being with feelings.
Yes he is in the closet and I thought about what it was like when I was in the closet. I think that’s one of the reasons why we did not “work”. I can’t be with a man that is not “out” and “proud” to be gay.
Ps. Redapple I am not sure Rahi is gay but I did learn something though there are “other men” out there. The most important thing for me to do is to “continue” to get out there and meet people.