Do You Believe Bisexuality Exists?
The topic of bisexuality is a controversial issue because some straight and gay people do not believe bisexuality exists. I don’t agree with this Kinsey scale that states 1 in 10 people are gay or lesbian. I believe life is a bit more complicated than that. I don’t know the true number but I believe if society was more accepting of bisexuality perhaps more people would come out as bisexual.
I believe bisexuality does exist. Do I like seeing attractive women make out or have sex? Of course I do. I love the L Word that show is just amazing. I used to read a lesbian magazine called “On Our Backs” a few years ago before the publication went out of business.
I have only seen two women have sex together once. I remember when I was in high school it was during Halloween two female friends of mine were having sex and it was late at night. I recall it was a bachelor apartment and I slept on the couch while the girls were having sex under a blanket and talking to me at the same time. We were drinking, eating chips, and chatting. My lesbian friends didn’t seem to mind that I was there and I was half drunk so I didn’t care anyway.
I have never had sex with a woman before but I have kissed two women before. The first time I kissed a girl was in high school. I remember this girl invited me to her apartment and her family wasn’t home and we made out. She invited me back to her bedroom and she wanted to get more intimate but I declined. The second time I kissed a woman was at a bar and I was drunk . I have thought about having sex with a woman though.
Although I am bicurious, I can tell if a member of the opposite sex is attractive or not. I will admit if I see an attractive woman on the bus or subway I will check her out.
I think sexuality is fluid. My cousin is bisexual, she doesn’t believe in labels. She says people shouldn’t be so attached to the whole “gay” and “straight” label. She says people should just explore their sexuality and go with the flow.
I notice that female bisexuality is more palatable then male bisexuality. I think if a woman can be bisexual then a man can also be bisexual. If a man says he is bisexual most people will say the man is in denial about being gay which isn’t always the case. I am sure there are men out there that are truly bisexual.
It appears bisexual men are treated rather unfairly by society as though they are lying about being sexually attracted to both genders. I wonder if male bisexuality will ever considered palatable by society? Also, some heterosexual men like the fantasy of having a bisexual girlfriend they don’t view it as a threat. However, some women would never want to date a bisexual man because they few this as a form of weakness or just not socially acceptable.
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I have always believed that rather than conform to our discrete definitions of gay and straight, sexuality is best represented more as a spectrum with absolute homosexuality at one end and absolute heterosexuality at the other.
Genetics predispositions us to fall at a particular point within that spectrum, while external influence (e.g. religion, societal norms, etc.) can push one’s sexual expression more toward one end of the spectrum or the other. Influenced by both nature and nurture, most people fall at a point within the spectrum rather than at its poles.
In this regard, I agree that bisexuality exists and would go further to suggest that without most of these external influences, most might simply become “sexual” and, given the right circumstances, would respond favorably to emotional attachment and sexual stimulation regardless of who (or what) is providing it.
I have to be honest. I really don’t believe in the concept of bisexuality.
I might get rocks thrown at me but I just don’t believe in it at all.
One mate of mind used to contend that all people were bisexual, which I don’t believe is true at all.
Have to run to work but will be back later to explain at more depth.
The nature and the essence of bisexuality are a very complex, subtle and controvesal problem, that you have analyzed with a very deep spirit and sensibility.
A very interesting, or rather illuminating, text about it is Virginia Woolf’s “Orlando”, that can be read for free at this link:
http://xoomer.alice.it/letteraturadamore/Orlando.html
(toghether with Michelangelo’s Sonnets, at their turn very ambiguous on the plan of sexual identity).
This masterwork might be matter and object of furter reflexion.
Be happy and enjoy your life and your condition, whatever it is.
Woolf seems to believe that bisexuality does really exist, but that it is a complex, faceted and nuancé phaenomenon, that cannot tolerate too narrow and restricted limits and borders.
I don’t know. Honestly I am so confused with the subject. I don’t even know my sexuality. I think that we are all the same and that you can fall in love with anyone.
Bisexuality definitely exists. But it’s not quite as common as stupidity.
I think bisexuality must exist. I’m straight myself, but I went out with a bisexual man last year. After we split up he got a boyfriend. He seemed perfectly happy with both of us. I mean, straight I may be, but I can tell when another woman is attractive. Perhaps bisexuals just act on those reactions more?
Now this is just me. I really don’t believe in the existence of bisexuality. I could go into why, but I got enough to deal with since the last person I told this to was my girlfriend and she says she’s bi and told me I was being “offensive”.
yet she tells me loves guys more because of certain “reasons” which I use to refute her so called “bi-sexuality”.
so I don’t believe in it…today’s society focuses too much on sex.
Hey, Bisexual men do exist, I’m one of them.
It implies so much confusion, especially in the teen years. You don’t understand why all those feelings are in you. Aren’t we suppose to be either gay, or straight?
I first told myself: ‘I’m gay, let’s drop the pretense’
then first love hit me… and it was a girl. I totally forgot about men
When it faded away, after two years, I became closer to men again.
I crushed on a guy, but I hadn’t realize that I wasn’t wholy heterosexual in the end. So I didn’t understand why I was feeling so strongly for a ‘friend’.
I missed a beautiful relationship, for I think he was in love with me too.
And so on… So much confusion because bisexuality isn’t supposed to exist. (ah ah ah)
The truth is, either we are nice, and we repress it to be straight.
Or we give up love of the feminine to identify as gay.
Or we fill the rank of ex-gay, and flaunt our mental force against homosexuality. (I’ve read all the testimonies of sucessful ex-gays I could find, and they are me!) So unfair to true gays.
Anyway, my personnal story – it is only a very short summary I wrote here, I also got through sex addiction for example- made me learn so much. I have read everything, every points of view, talked to different poeple. Better than a counseller =D
I would like the Christian and the civil worlds to better understand love and sexuality. Not to speak out of conviction or after a quick research. That also applies to my future colleagues (i’m in medical school) –> phychiatrists suck.
There are many claims against the existence of bisexuality, but it does, in fact, exist.
Some people say bisexuality can’t exist because even though people may be attracted to both sexes, they are attracted to one moreso than the other. So? They still like both, whether or not it’s eqully! Bisexuality is not defined as being attracted to both sexes equally, it’s just being attracted to BOTH.
And while I’m sure there are gay men or lesbian women using the term “bisexual” in denial or to hide, there are those who are actually, truly bisexual.
Perhaps if people were more open-minded about sexuality, lesbians and gays wouldn’t have to hide behind the label “bisexual”, and true bisexuals could have some validity.
Okay, the simple fact here is that there are people who feel like having sex with certain girls, and who feel like having sex with certain guys. When this is the case, such people are bisexual. Whether or not they are more attracted to one sex than the other is of no relevance. If they feel physical attraction to both, then they cannot be considered homosexual or heterosexual. End of.