There Are No Boundaries To Lesbianism
There has been a lot of discussion on the internet that Sex & The City star Cynthia Nixon’s partner the education activist Christine Marinoni isn’t physical “attractive”. It is true obviously Christine isn’t as “pretty” as Cynthia and maybe that’s the point. Maybe Cynthia doesn’t care about looks?
I guess the old saying is true love is blind. I guess Christine must have a heart of gold. Maybe Cynthia sees something in Christine that nobody else sees someone that loves her and respects her. I was thinking perhaps this has to do with the fact in the lesbian community looks don’t matter as much as the mainstream and gay male communities?
It appears to me that the lesbian communities are more egalitarian. Lesbian culture don’t seems so superficial as gay male culture. In the gay male communities it is all about designer clothes, designer homes, designer bags, being rich and looking perfect. How can I possibly compete? Why should I even bother trying? Maybe if it was possible I should cross over to lesbianism? LOL! I am so sick of gay male culture sometimes! I am so sick of gay men they are so pretentious!
Honestly, look at Portia De Rossi and Ellen DeGeneres based on appearances Portia is clearly more physically stunning then Ellen. Ellen is also fifteen years older then Portia some people say they are using each other. Some internet blogs suggest that Portia is dating Ellen for social status and money and Ellen is dating Portia because she is young, beautiful, and sexually attractive. Another theory is Portia makes Ellen look good. Honestly, doesn’t anyone wonder how someone as unattractive as Ellen can obtain such sexy hot girlfriends?
Ellen DeGeneres is not a good looking woman compared to Portia De Rossi. Portia is young, slim, beautiful, feminine, and a great actress and she has excellent fashion sense. Ellen is a butch lesbian she dresses very masculine she tends to wear suits and doesn’t seem to care about her appearance.
Maybe it is a good thing in the lesbian community you don’t have to be fit, or young, or be in the best shape to have a partner. In the gay male community looks are so important and youth is also placed on a pedestal as well.
There is an intense pressure in the gay male community to look “perfect” to have the rock hard abs, the chiseled body, the toned legs, the shiny teeth, perfect hair, and face. Sometimes I wonder what it would be like to be a lesbian for a day ? I don’t get the sense that being “thin” or having the “perfect body” is important in the lesbian community.
I could be wrong but that’s the assumption that I have. I am serious, if it was physically possible to become a lesbian for a day would it be easier for me to find a partner? In the lesbian world it seems looks don’t matter at all you don’t have to be physically attractive and in perfect shape all that matters is having a nice personality it seems.
Gayblackcanada 
LMAO!!!!!!!!!!!
I am serious Baby Please it seems to me in lesbian culture there is less importance on looking “perfect”. In lesbian culture it appears that personality, interests, and your values are more highly regarded then your physical appearance.
Of course looks are important to lezzas you eejit! Most lesbians i know would find Ellen more attractive than the other skinny, hettie looking one. Its hard to explain why, but i dont have to, just know it true…
Yeah, I was absolutely astonished when I read this. As a gay woman, I am extremely attracted to Ellen, and find her very attractive, whereas I am not attracted to Portia at all. I can see that Portia is attractive, obviously.
Ellen also isn’t butch, she’s tomboyish. What I also noticed about your article, is that you have gone and do the exact thing to the lesbian community that you accuse the gay men community of. Good grief!
Ellen’s hot! And her kindness and compassion makes her even sexier. Lot of debt to that soul, and I would imagine the same applies to Christine Marinoni, but I wouldn’t know, since she isn’t a public figure.
And yes, rather don’t write about lesbian culture unless you’re a lesbian, because the result is drivel like this.
baha who da fuck would find ellen degeneres hot? is it because you are longing a male and ellen portrays a male figure? because she is butch and trys to be a male?
good luck with that
Ellen is fuckin’ hot. What are you talking about? (You’re too straight to write about this. Just don’t.)
She is gorgeous. Look at that smile, her features and her skin. I think she’s cuter than Porcia though they’re both beautiful.
I’m a lesbian. It’s ridiculous to deam all of the “lesbian community” less shallow than another sexual preference group. Every person is different, you can’t make generalizations about an entire people sharing a sexual orientation just because they all happen to like the same sexual organ. There are lesbians that care about physical appearance way too much just as there are those people in any group, as well there are people in every category of sexual preference for whom physical appearance is not a big priority in partnership. Also, someone in a relationships’ attractiveness shouldn’t be judged from third parties because you get a different pair of eyes when you fall in love, and no one else can see that person exactly the same way you do. It changes everything so utterly…
One pretty acceptable generalization that can be made is lesbians are too simple to even worry about anything you talked about in this post. We just want to love who we love and have our realities intermingle with one another.
Actually, I have found (im bi) that, being in the LGBT community, many girls do go for the personality rather than looks. They want more of a compatable friends rather than the hot girl that has no substance to her. I often wonder how that reject lookin girl got the hot girl. Then I learned that girls are not all about looks. If only guys could be like that. LOL….And im speaking from experience. My gf is not hot at all and im glamorous, but I absolutly Love her personality!!!! And she treats me like a princess! I would of never talked to her if i hadnt gotten to know her as a friend first, but im glad i did. Looks are not everything people. They do help though. LOL……
Oh yeah, and ellen is HOT. I would do her in a heartbeat!
Ummm… there are definitely pressures in the lesbian community to look a certain way. As someone who presents in a more “femme” way, I would also like to point out that all the pressures on WOMEN in general to meet impossible and unhealthy beauty standards are still there for me… well, maybe not *all* of them in terms of impressing some guy, but I still want my wife to think I am beautiful and stunning and fit and have a “perfect body”. I even worry that her body is more “perfect” than mine and that I need to be more fit. So there are all kinds of pressures, especially having to do with being a woman. There are also pressures in terms of not being seen as a “real” lesbian by some people, or being invisible in the lesbian community, if you look more “feminine”. So it’s very complicated.
Oh lovely. You’re telling me that all gay men have morphed into shallow teen age girls? Not the ones I know thank NOTA. Men have always been more visually driven than women but I think gay or not, you’ve bought way to far in to Madison Avenues version of what is a good looking woman. Ellen has beautiful skin, hair, teeth and eyes. Her eyes draw me most, they are so kind. If I walked that way I would have a huge, huge crush on Ellen.
As a hetero male of long (77 years) standing (when I wasn’t prone), I am so surprised that so many lesbians don’t find Ellen desirable. My experience has always been that you lesbians are attracted to women who are attractive to men (to my discomfort on many occasions)
Helen is intensly attractive to men … Between her and Portia it would be the not so attractive and certainly less interesting youngster that I would kick out of bed!
Another observation … Some of you seem to lump lesbians and gay men into the same basket! Wonder why?
There are massive difference between homosexual males and homosexual females. So much so that to assume gay men are the male counterpart of gay females is not only ridiculous it poses the assumption (that I’m sure will horrify) that lesbianism is just a female version of gay maledom!
A quick read of Clive Bromhall’s “The Eternal Child” might help to clarify the differences.