Dear Readers I Need Your Help I Need Some Advice On How To Help My Friend?
Hello everyone, I need some advice. A few months ago I wrote about a friend of mine a South Asian gay man he is having difficulty with his parents due to being gay. I live in the greater Toronto area and so does my friend. Does anyone know of any support group for young South Asian gay men?
I will conduct some research today but I just figured I should ask the readers of my blog about this issue. In the last few weeks my friend has told me the pressure is increasing and he is becoming depressed. What can I do? I listen to my friend but I admit I am ignorant about all the issues he is dealing with. My friend tells me his parents constantly ask him about getting married he is also the only male child. I am worried and concerned about my friend.
I suggested to my friend a group in Toronto but I am not sure he is willing to attend. My friend tells me that his alcoholic father, overbearing sister, and reluctant mother aren’t helping him at all. My friend feels unloved by his family and I am becoming very concerned. In Ontario counseling is free and covered by OHIP. Also, I think my friend should see a gay positive therapist. What can I do? I will keep on looking for information.
Does anyone have any advice please provide your perspective. My friend said he was missing me since I was in Jamaica last week and the early part of this week. What do I do? Any advice?
Gayblackcanada 
I would say that the only thing you can do is simply be there for him during this tough and hard time. You have been dealt with a difficult blow with your grandfather’s passing so take some time to heal for that too and then focus on your friend. Once your strong, you will be able to give him some of your strength.
Does he want to see a counsellor? I think you should suggest what you think is right and hope that he makes the right choice. Sometimes just having someone there to listen to you can do the world of difference.
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Hello Aulelia, I contacted a gay South Asian group based in Toronto for my friend. I was provided an e-mail address to the gay male counsellor at the group haven’t received a response yet from him. I also provided the phone number and link to my friend about this South Asian gay male group as well.
People who are conflicted about their sexuality — that’s deep.
I have known people who are; but don’t know how to help them.
You should go on Craigslist Toronto and sniff around for this stuff.
I don’t know how many of your readers live in Toronto.
I was having a conversation with an acquaintance who won’t embrace his homosexuality. He wants to be straight. But he is not. Not at all. We were talking last week. I won’t admit he’s conflicted but it’s obvious that he is.
I don’t know how to help him, either.
Some people need counseling, I guess and others need to find their way by themselves, I guess.
My friend in Cali has a gay neighbor (from the Phillipines) who is well in his 30’s and is still fighting him homosexuality.
This seems sad to me.
I wish your friend well. It’s a hard thing.
I mean, “He won’t admit”
Baby Please you make an excellent point, I never thought about this. My friend claims he is very comfortable with being gay but he always says the weight of the expectations from his parents are upsetting him. Even though my friend is in his 20s he feels he needs their approval. I contacted a gay South Asian service in Toronto yesterday and they told me they have a counselling group for young South Asian gay men. I e-mailed my friend with the contact information and spoke to him yesterday. I wonder what more can I do?